I made from from joining clubs. Otherwise it is very hard as I'm not in College anymore, etc. which was a time when making friends was so easy. I would try to find something you may be interested in at least to some degree and you will encounter other people. I actually joined a club in my hometown (doesn't exist anymore) for people trying to deal with Depression , anxiety, etc. That is how I made two friends and kept the one still to this day and we are very close, but that was not easy and it took a couple of years to even accomplish that. There are many other clubs to join however it just takes some searching even though it can be very hard especially when you may be feeling down. I am here for you if you want to talk sometime. Oh, you can also take a night class at your local college or something like that; it's just a thought. Take care and don't give up.

I meant to state that I made FRIENDS! joining clubs! Not comparing yourself to others is something I have yet to stop doing even though it is such a sad waist of time. It is also a natural human emotion and a hard one to prevent. Try to remember that you are a special person created by God and even though someone else may seem to have it all, that is usually not the case as they have problems as well, but they won't wear their problems on their sleeve, so to speak. Also think about getting a dog if you are able to because it will get you out of the house and meeting with other dog lovers, etc. Take care and God be with youl

Hi HayleyG,
So sorry that you are feeling down. I replied to your other post before. Have you stuck to your list?:) I know it can be hard, and especially around the holidays, that's when people from our past seem to pop up in our heads. Whether it be exes, old friends we used to have, people that have passed on, etc. I know I am thinking a lot about people that I used to know.

Did you ever grieve for your relationship? It was a loss in your life. It sounds like since it ended suddenly, that could give you a sense of trauma, anger... and unfortunately you have to come to terms with it being over, and that's not an easy thing to do. But you can do it!!!

Making new friends seems to get harder as we get older. It really can't be forced or rushed. You can only do your best. Try to talk to people as much as you can force yourself to do. You will find other people might be lonely too. Maybe people at your gym, in that cardio class you went to? You can just make some small talk, talk about the work out, the instructor, the gym, weather, anything. Oh!! Ask if there is a good coffee place near the gym. Maybe you can turn that into asking if that person would like to join you!

Try not to be too hard on yourself. You have suffered a loss and you need some time to get back to feeling like yourself again. Be gentle with yourself.