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Merry Christmas all. I just want to get this off my chest. I know its my fault but it stills hurts.
I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship in April 2018. My ex tried to get me back until October. Then we had a big blown out. The same month I met a new guy. I ended up really liking him more than expected. But I noticed that he wasn't keeping his word. Like saying something as small as "I'll call you back", and the call never comes. If its a friend I don't mind but if its a love interest I do if it happens all the time. So, it was Thankgiving Eve, and we were talking. We talked about seeing eachother soon. He said he would call me back, and never did. This was the 4th time. It really upset me because I started developing feelings. He even said I love you. I noticed this behavior as well as others, 2x in which I believe he hung up on me mid conversation but I could not proof it. Still can't prove it. Fast forward I was in the heat of the moment and asked him not to contact me until after the Holidays. He said "OK". After Thankgiving I apologized, and was open with him. Tellings him that not keep his word is a tigger for me bc I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. He called me on video chat, asked me to get nude on cam. I said no, we talked he told me a lot of his past. That last year he was engaged and caught his finance having a sex affair with his bestfriend. After he promised to care for her, if she would be there while he recovered from back surgery. He may still be grieving. He said he didn't have time for a relationship and I told him I'm not looking for casual sex. We haven't had sex yet. I thought we were connecting that night. Again he said he loved me, which is weird concerning he wants no relationship. I did let him see me nude before I got in the shower just for fun. He said to call him back before I left for the mall. I think he was upset bc I was leaving the house. He ghosted, I didn't hear from him for 2 weeks. I called him, and he didn't answer. I texted forget it, and he had the nerve to say he's in a meeting, and he's confused because I said not to contact him??? What, I already aplogized. So, I was crying all night. SIDE NOTE: I spoke to a well know psychic, so told me I would not hear from him for a few weeks because he is trying to get his money up (he owns a construction company), that he has an hang up with his daughter's mother, he has healing to do, and things will not heat up until March. That's far and with this behavior, I don't think I can wait. I also wonder if I'm wasting my time. I said Merry Christmas no response? I was so hurt. I feel a pull on my heart and have been meditating to remove his gripped. I hate this feeling, I'm overwhelmed
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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And if you have met, how often do you spend time together now in person?
Older C did you have some issues after going to psychics as well? A psychic I talked to two weeks ago with spot-on about him and then the first prediction she made didn't even happen which was supposed to happen two days ago.
Christmas thank you for your advice and you are completely correct. Sometimes as humans we know the right way but just need to hear it. I was able to do a transfer of emotions and I did that through texting him Merry Christmas and not getting a response as well as telling everyone here on the form what happened. For some reason it gave me a lot of relief. I'm thinking of a way to diss him the next time he comes around without the emotions being transferred back on to me and I'm hoping that I can start a new relationship with someone different and just leave him and his Old energy in 2018. The same night that I texted him Merry Christmas I also texted another guy Merry Christmas who I had interesting since high school and he text me back as well as said to me I miss you and that really helped me alot. The thing that makes me feel much better is that I was able to transfer the negative energy he had placed on me, to make me feel like I did something wrong when I didn't. I know that him not responding to my text message is eating him alive because now he looks like the bad guy and I feel a sense of relief I will never give him back the power. I'm thinking about either completely ignoring him or answer all this calls but always be busy and never have any time to meet until he just disappears? Like for example I travel a lot for work and if he calls says hey what are you up to I want to see you I can say oh I'm sorry I'm going out of town for work I'll let you know when I'm available but never let him know and do that to him repeatedly while moving on? Any other suggestions are greatly appreciated.
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