When did you fall out of love with your bf and why?

You've only made love once in the past year and, both of you are accepting of that?

If you no longer love him, then in fairness to you both you should tell him, and then leave him.

I'm curious to know when and why as well.

If you're dealing with depression and you're not happy, as a safe measure, I'd deal with those things first to discern where your lack of happiness comes from. It might mean seeing a therapist if you can't put your finger on it.

From where I see it, he sounds like a gem, and you sound like you don't appreciate what you have. What is love my dear? Can you explain it in a tangible way? Maybe he hasn't tried to be intimate with you because he senses your lack of desire for him, and it's weakening his self-esteem. A partner needs to know and feel that they're desired for their mojo to work. He's reacting to you and your loss of interest in him, and that dominoes to low self-esteem and zero sex drive. I'd look within to find out what it is you're doing that is causing you unhappiness, instead of looking to him for it.

Too many people have a Hollywood movie idea of love when no such thing exists other than on the big screen. Love isn't fireworks and fairy dust, and if you were to take the time to work on yourself, you might more easily find happiness in your life, instead of extinguishing the life you have now with a gem of a partner and father to your child. Have a read over in the infidelity board and see what some spouses are dealing with, and you might find some appreciation for what you have.

Wishing you well.

Sometimes I wonder if we were ever really in love. We were friends and just started dating then I got pregnant. I figured I could learn to love him but it never really happen. It's 100% me why we don't have sex we last year we had sex twice(April and Nov) and haven't had sex at all this year I just don't want to I can't bring myself to do it. He is a good guy but like everyone has his flaws. He knows about my depression and he's trying which is amazing but I'm not a point where it's to late. I don't want to spend time together don't want to hang out. I feel like a horrible person because I should be happy with my life but I'm not at all. I'm sure I will just settle and stay with him but never really be happy or I love.

Lenoire is right, it may be a good idea to look within rather than without.

Happiness and love are both inside jobs, they are responsibilities of self to attain. I have worked on self-happiness and self-love for a long time and, I have arrived at the conclusion that being nonjudgmental is the key to.

I am not religious in any way, in fact I have no time for religion at all, however, I have adopted Jesus as my mentor. Jesus achieved what those before Him, and those whom now say couldn't be, perfectionism. How do you know for certain perfectionism is impossible to achieve if you never give it a try is what I say.

Perfectionism is born from being nonjudgmental. Jesus judged nobody, and none of His enemies were self-created. What is required to become nonjudgmental? Never put yourself down, and never put others down, that simple. And here is the payback, you rarely, if ever, notice mistakes, it's as if you never make any, such has been my experience anyway.

If you are sincerely unloving of your boyfriend then the least you owe him is to tell him so. Good luck with it.

Well sounds like if you don't love him truly it isnt right not consider ending things. He sounds like he is patient and trying. It's truly not fair to him. I would think the lack of desire from you should be a huge hint to him. I wouldn't want to stay if I did not love and want to work on the relationship.

Mmmm, this is a bit tough. Since you have a son together, you might want to consider seeing a therapist to talk about your feelings. Your son is worth making sure you are considering all sides to this before you separate. Separation is hard on a child and you should be sure. Perhaps you are struggling with other things that can be remedied. Often our partner is the place where we place our struggles because it is safe and frankly, even easy. This might even lead to couples counseling where you can sort this out together. The lack of intimacy may also represent a different struggle that you both may be dealing with. I do think it is important to celebrate each other's strengths and be forgiving of weaknesses because we all have them. No one has a perfect relationship because we all come with lots of flaws. Just take any steps you can to be fairly certain of what you are and what you are NOT feeling. It will make a big difference in the peace you experience whichever way you go. I wish you the best.

I feel like I have to just stay with him leaving him is selfish. I need to think of my son happiness. I have no support so staying seems like the only thing I can do

He is investing in a relationship that he is getting nothing in return; no love no intimacy. He hasn't learnt what other guys like me have learnt : genuine desire can't be negotiated. He is being a ' mr nice guy ' doing good staff hoping that you will love him in return. Hoping that he will be appreciated for the ' good life ' he works so hard to provide you with. ( most women inherently lack the ability appreciate the sacrifices their men do to make their comfy lives a reality )

He doesn't understand that a woman's behaviour is her communicating : if a woman doesn't want to have sex with me for some frivolous excuses I end the relationship immediately : women want to have lots of sex with men they are attracted too and in love with,it's that simple. If you can't arouse her, move on, someone else can and will.

He probably realizes what is going on, he is just a utility of comfort and provision, only loved for what he can provide and do for you, but not as an individual. When losses his whole utility i.e job you will replace him and dump him without even posting a question on this forum.

That is the dilema of (most) men : we can't be ' wanted ' so we have to be ' needed '. You can't be held responsible for not leaving him, it's in your genes to seek out a man for your provision and that of your kids : for that reason you are justified to stay for the mere reason that your needs are being met. On the other hand, it's his responsibility to leave you if his needs are not being met.