But alittleconfused...you said that I just had to be pretty and funny. Now you changed your mind? Damn!...I though I was getting close...

Emotional intimacy is the getting to know a person, sharing dreams, hopes, needs, aspirations... it's the ability to share needs and insecurities and have those met and quelled. It embodies love. Really.

Sex with out emotional intimacy is just using someone else body for an orgasm. It's objectifying and usually eventually hurts women.

Many of us dabble in the casual sex arena but few women who are healthy and respect themselves can stay there long. Why because good sex for a woman involves the emotional connection...
When that it not tended to the connection dies..... It did for me.

yeah, what zippid said

Well said Zippid

Zippid said: "Sex with out emotional intimacy is just using someone else body for an orgasm. It's objectifying and usually eventually hurts women. "

Sooooo... why do men want to use our bodies for an orgasm and objectify women? Do you value women that little? Maybe women aren't OVERTHINKING the whole thing Rman... Maybe men are overthinking the HOLE thing?

I don't know why I find this thread sad. Maybe I find everything sad today?
Anyway, I need the emotional connection. Definitely. I need to have some level of trust to get physical.
Having sex and not getting a call the next day would probably be the most depressing thing for me, because opening up means I gave something of myself, and if it isn't appreciated well... self esteem issues, I guess.

Yes I have to have emotional intimacy first. What is the point in having sex with someone if I dont care for them.

Hmm, so how pretty are ya? I can hold off on the convent for a week or two.

If by emotional intimacy you mean not being a butthead all day then expecting us to be hot n ready for ya? Then yep we need emotional intimacy or you ain't getting nothing :0)

I think as women mature they quit needing to have sex to get validation that they're desirable to me. Since it's harder for women to get off than men, they start prefering the company of men who aren't emotionally absent because experience has taught them that emotionally in touch men make better lovers.

LMAO - missing an "N" "desirable to meN"

If I don't like you let alone respect you, everything about you is disgusting and vulgar.

But if there is an emotional (be it how ever small) connection, then the intimacy will be greater because you're with someone who can satisfy your body and soul.

I don't believe so. I have heard of and actually know a couple women who have no problem with ONS's. No emotion, no expectations, just a hook-up and move on.

But if you include the build-up (flirting) to a ONS, I guess you could say that's a form of emotional intimacy, however short-term.

The way this question is framed is overly simplistic. "Go through with physical intimacy"? Like it's going to the freakin' dentist? I would say that yes, in a long term relationship, in order to MAINTAIN a good physical relationship, there are many factors that contribute to the health of the relationship, and yes, emotional intimacy is huge for many women.

Other key components being, of course, housecleaning and proper foot care.