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Ya know...I was just messaging a friend and this occurred to me...what is it that I am looking for in a future mate. I know that my ex and I were not truly compatible or we would have survived through the challenges we faced. I know I want someone who is very attractive, (petty I know and shallow), I want someone who is willing to talk problems and challenges out, someone who is willing to communicate with me, someone who has a very aggressive sexual appetite, someone who understands about dreams and is willing to stand by my side as I make them come true, some one who is willing to support me, someone who wants to help me keep a clean house, someone who doesn't mind taking her share of the cooking, someone who likes getting wet (swimming, showering...use you imagination)...someone who loves movies and also could leave the TV off for days and just relax and read, someone who loves a good fire and cuddling, someone who can accept me with all of my faults and still love me in spite of them...
what do you want......and how do we find it?????????
what do you want......and how do we find it?????????
How old are you?
I get the feeling I may be too old.
Hmmmm, have you heard the cougar?
lol
Someone to go to church with me. someone who can tear themselves away from the tv for a spontaneous walk in the park or a wrestling match...whatever comes up. someone who has a motorcycle to explore the unbeaten paths, likes country/bluegrass music, going to festivals of all sorts. and someone who will cook. (i'll do the cleaning) most importantly, just have fun...life is just too short. also, they have to be faithful and honest and be truly in love with me, and with us as a couple. is that too much to ask for?
Communication is the key, you have to find someone who you can really communicate with. Someone who you can share your innermost feelings, and not feel ashamed, or judged.
You only get out of a relationship, what you are willing to give.
We all want someone with the same interests and desires. Someone we are attracted to. But without Communication, a willingness to work on a relationship, the willingness to sacrifice for a relationship, attraction alone will not get you very far, or make you happy in the end.
Just my 2 cents. ;)
The most important qualities;
honesty
a drive to be a better person
all about family (his and mine)
compasionate about others, even those they do not know
intelligent enough to have a stimulated conversation
of course mutual attraction/decent sex life (I'm shocked about these ladies that said a big penis, its sooo much more what they do with it!!)
layed back but with some spunk
considerate
I wouldn't mind a good cook and housekeeper of course but this isn't necessary
does not focus on money and wouldn't care if I made more than he did
a great hugger
loves adventures, being outdoors
cshel wrote: The most important qualities;
honesty
a drive to be a better person
all about family (his and mine)
compasionate about others, even those they do not know
intelligent enough to have a stimulated conversation
of course mutual attraction/decent sex life (I'm shocked about these ladies that said a big penis, its sooo much more what they do with it!!)
layed back but with some spunk
considerate
I wouldn't mind a good cook and housekeeper of course but this isn't necessary
does not focus on money and wouldn't care if I made more than he did
a great hugger
loves adventures, being outdoors
nooo.. tastes like chocolate.
Loves me 'Just the way I am'
That being said, here are a few things that would be an added bonus in my perfect mate.
Will laugh with me, or at me (lol ;))... just as long as we're both enjoying ourselves.
He must get along with my daughters.
He must be supportive of me and not enjoy putting me down, hitting me, choking me, throwing things at me, tackling me, trying to humiliate me, or being abusive to me ever.... and especially not in front of my children.
Is able to love unconditionally.
(This is what I told stbx the day that I left him. "All I ever wanted was for you to love me, unconditionally.")
Is capable of relaxing and enjoying spending time with me... not only in a sexual way, but just having fun together.
Wants to take romantic getaways with me and not just family vacations.
Doesn't always wait for me to say "I love you." I want a man that is capable of telling me and showing me that he loves me on a daily basis. Whether it's with a phone call, a loving look, or just a kiss.
Can go on a vacation, shopping, out to eat, to a movie, or just stay home without totally stressing himself and everyone around him out.
Tries to see the positive instead of the negative in everything and everyone.
Doesn't correct everything that comes out of my mouth, especially since I'm usually right. ;) lol
Can have a disagreement with me without yelling and berating me.
Acknowledges my feelings when I'm sharing them with him, instead of telling me it's B.S. or that I'm full of crap.
Hugs me without my having to ask him to hug me. Also, doesn't think this is going to lead to sex every single time.
These are just a few things... of course the financially stable, hard worker, trustworthy, and stable... these go without saying. :)