Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Ya know...I was just messaging a friend and this occurred to me...what is it that I am looking for in a future mate. I know that my ex and I were not truly compatible or we would have survived through the challenges we faced. I know I want someone who is very attractive, (petty I know and shallow), I want someone who is willing to talk problems and challenges out, someone who is willing to communicate with me, someone who has a very aggressive sexual appetite, someone who understands about dreams and is willing to stand by my side as I make them come true, some one who is willing to support me, someone who wants to help me keep a clean house, someone who doesn't mind taking her share of the cooking, someone who likes getting wet (swimming, showering...use you imagination)...someone who loves movies and also could leave the TV off for days and just relax and read, someone who loves a good fire and cuddling, someone who can accept me with all of my faults and still love me in spite of them...
what do you want......and how do we find it?????????
what do you want......and how do we find it?????????
A multi billionaire.
Drop dead good looking, like a super model.
Didnt give a hoot about money and asked me to take care of it all.
Thought I was Mr. Handsome and couldnt keep her hands off.
Listened to every word I said like I was einstien or something.
Insisted I dont work another day and sit back to enjoy life.
....if we can figure out how to find our ideal mate theres something in it for you!!!!!
lmbo
There is a perfect woman at my church but the ex already spread too many lies there, she'd never show an interest in me...
That being said, growing old lonely (without a partner) can work for me. I will tell you this, you can hire a house keeper, buy a dog to sit by the fire and if it's furry will make a good cuddler, go see a masseuse to pay attention to you for a min. $30 for an hour's session, then get an escort to tell you you're the most wonderful man and have her maybe clean your house nude? I don't know.
Don't be in a rush to meet the perfect woman. As such, there's no perfect man or woman on this planet, so settling for something that has some qualities will work for you.
Also, I am not going to generalize here, but putting a huge emphasis on a person's physical traits could potentially get you a woman who knows she's beautiful and then uses that to her advantage to get out of house cleaning, and paying attention to you. It's about her. Oh, I just described my ex wife. lol
Enjoy being on your own for a bit, then you'll be more attractive to another woman who'll pursue you to give her love, not the other way around.
Seriously, when this thing is over, i'll let you know what I want in a companion.
haha
Someone who's law abiding.
Someone willing to take a lie detector to attest the above.
Someone with a clean criminal background check who doesn't have illiegal internet habits.
Other than that, I'm easy.
THE INVITATION
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.
It doesn't interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain! I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes!"
It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and
bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like
the company you keep in the empty moments.
by Oriah Mountain Dreamer