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What kinds of reactions do you have to people who try and control you?
Do you have the same feelings when you are your own tyrant?
My inner tyrant is always trying to tell me it's because she cares and for my own good.
How come when other people are sounding like a tyrant they don't sound like they care or have our best interests at heart?
Do you have the same feelings when you are your own tyrant?
My inner tyrant is always trying to tell me it's because she cares and for my own good.
How come when other people are sounding like a tyrant they don't sound like they care or have our best interests at heart?
I got to much on my plate with myself...
If the person controlling me is subtle, I will be submissive until I realize what's up, then, I walk. Sometimes, it takes a bit but, I walk.
My own tyrant? Tyranny doesn't drive me. Decency does.
When other people sounds like a tyrant, they try to investigate me by trying to get my IP address behind my back. I had an old boss who wanted to find out if I had gotten married and she paid a service to search the public records for a wedding certificate. She screwed up and I found out. Let's just say, it was not a good thing for her after I used my resources to take care of her tyranny. She didn't have the best interest for me at heart....she was a sociopath and underhanded control freak who showed the world that she was this amazing professional strong woman.
I wonder if many here on DS can relate?
It's amazing that someone would go that far out of their way to cause harm to a person. What purpose does that really serve I wonder?
"You have been weighed, you have been measured, and you have been found wanting. Come back when you're worthy."
I think my tyrant is me - I drive myself far harder and longer than anyone else would do. I expect more out of myself than anyone else would. I guess I need to learn to lighten up.
Lynne
Also one of the residual effects I have of being in an mentally abusive relationship is finding it difficult to make decisions. I can talk myself into and then out of any number of choices (and back again.)
I also have the tyrant boss thing going on. Not in a position to leave yet and complaining is not an option.
People were shocked as she showed on the outside, to be well groomed, well educated, very successful and yet....so fucked up inside her. She was a snake in the grass. She manipulated behind the scenes and would pull strings to the weaker ones that would only see her as greatness. If they fell from grace, she would figure out ways to kill their career. This thread made me think of her. I wonder where she is now? She is California. I know she will never forge me....
So, how would you categorize her?
Tyrant? or one fucked up individual without her own identity?