cuz when its love, people dont want their partner to be a loser,
when theyre breaking up, people dont want to be the loser

Oh I have one of those.

Against my wishes, he's talked to both kids and told them they need to decide which parent they want to live with permanently. No more going back and forth says he, pick ONE parent.

*sigh*

Chances are, every indication that it would happen was there before the marriage. When people describe bully behavior in a relationship, they're usually speaking of control issues. More than likely, there were control issues there before in the relationship, but they were expressed differently.

ALC - totally inappropriate conduct on your spouse's part - call your lawyer!

Lynne

B/c they think they are on a higher intellect level. The pfff come out all the time when you try to reason or talk.Thats what my bully x was like.

She has got me labeled as the Bully, but I don't call her, I ask nothing of her, she is the one that calls me and demands that I pay for something or do something that is not my responsibility anymore....

Then I am hard nosed because I just don't have to put up with her shit anymore.... I am done, she divorced my give a shit gene, NO MORE.

Greed - excessive desire to acquire or possess more .Your right Dale.

Because they are angry and frustrated and don't handle thier emotions properly.

I bullied my ex because he wouldnt do as he was told lol

Frank is right in my case. stbx has ALWAYS bullied me....but love and desperation are blind *sigh
He has become a bigger bully in the divorce but that is becuase my lawyer is forcing him to do the right thing and he doesn't like to be told what to do and when! Bullies suck!!!
Mine has turned 2 of the three kids against me in all this and has pulled them right into the middle of the divorce :(

I can tell you how much I'd love to bully my ex...

but he'd have me killed.

its control. mind games. they need that power, maybe because they were inferior elsewhere. but its true, how much they change once your "theirs"

a littleconfused,
thats more than bullying

I find it impossible to get into the headspace of a person who doesnt care if the kids are hurt unnecessarily by a divorce that will negatively impact them anyway.

Its not just selfish and about power, its abusive.

Alot of the bullying is caused by insecurity, my childrens father turned into a bully because he knew i was going to leave him so he thought he would frighten me into staying, it worked for a little while but made me hate him.

My ex who is either reading this now or having his whore read this....became a wrecking machine with me from the moment that I asked him if there was someone else and he admitted it. It seemed as if it was his license not to give a fuck about me being a human being who was in horrible pain.

A bully? More than that....he simply did not care. He would see me having an anxiety attack and he would make a sandwich and go upstairs to watch tv or would stop long enough to tell me that he was going to talk to 'her' and not to disturb him. If we argued during those days, I would get a damned anxiety attack and would tell him to stop yelling at me because I couldn't breathe....he would keep on.

Now, he apologizes and tells me that he was not "in his right mind"....and thinks that justifies that emotional abuse. IT WAS NOT OKAY! Just because he apologizes or justifies (he mixes it up), doesn't mean that I lived in terror. At least bullies are just assholes and bitches but the daily disdain and cold hearted actions are chilling....it was so evident that he simply had no human emotions/remorse/pity. I even got on my knees to beg and took all the blame. I did not want to lose my family which included the step-son who was abandoned by his mother.

Whoa...sorry to go on a tangent....presently, things has happened to pull me back to a black hole. No thanks. I did lose my step-son as I've not heard a word out of him in over a year but, I found out his number and sent him a happy birthday wish. My ex has major financial set backs and he dumped the whore for something more comfortable for him....shallow liaisons. I am now venturing into a voyage that is free of bullshit. TADA!