I'm sorry he is doing this. Why are you even still talking to him? If he is going to say mean things that hurt you and make you feel like crying, and he was stalking you recently.... it seems to me that you don't have to deal with him in any way any more. You need to get away from this person.

You are divorced. So you are completely done with him, right?

It's time to block his number and not talk to him ever again. He's part of your past. Time to look forward to your future.

I know it's stupid, right? We have a son together so there is some contact. I know logically that I need to just let him go. It just kills me that I spent 8 years trying to show someone I was good enough for him to turn around and say that he feels not good enough for her. I gave him his only child. I'm a good mom. I worked two jobs so he could pursue his dream. I hate feeling like this.

He seems to still have some kind of control over you, that is left over from spending 8 years with him. It's just a habit to talk to him. But it's time to break off that part of the contact with him.

He can't hurt you if you don't let him.

It's hard to switch gears after being with someone so long, but it's time for you to break ties (except and only for, conversations that involve your son) and to get away from this person. There is no reason to be talking to him about his new person, etc. He is just being verbally abusive by saying these things to you.

But you don't have to hear it any more. You are not with him any more (thank goodness!) so who cares who he is with now. Any new woman will have to deal with his controlling and stalking ways, and verbal abuse now. Too bad for her... You know what kind of person he is, and what she is in for.

Would it help to talk to a therapist to make this transition into single life a little easier?

Why would you even consider taking his comments to heart? It is obvious he is trying to belittle you. You are not his punching bag, not his wife any longer, so why even communicate with him? Even if there are children involved, keep the conversation limited to them. You don’t have to leave yourself open to this criticism. Your self esteem is low, work toward building it up, see a therapist who can help you do it.

No decent, grounded person would talk to someone like your ex talks to you. He is just trying to hurt you because he has issues. Ignore him and move on. He is trash, and you are far better off without him.

This is fairly classic narcissist behaviour from him. Please don’t play his game anymore for your sons sake as well. He needs a healthy mom. Good luck.

Hang In there girl, I am Waiting for my ex to do this very same thing to me. He always wants to accuse me of purposely prolonging the divorce process, I just Want to make sure I take Care of myself and my kids. Thinking of you, you are strong and beautiful. Don’t ever let him put you down

Sorry, sounds like a jerk to me, who is so insecure that he has to tell a person in a divorce about the new one, apparently just to prop his fragile ego. Can't you try the standard response.

So I started going out with this new guy and thought the sex would be routine as it with you, a couple of minutes, yada, yada, but wow I cannot believe how turned on I am by Jedd. Now when I see him, it's like maybe we can spend some time together and cut the movie short. Again nothing against you, ex, but I have to say I have opened a new horizon in my life.

People do and say things when they're hurt. Are you seeing a therapist or counselor? When we can work through things that cause us to hurt, talking them out can help us bring closer and help us move forward in our lives. Hoping for the best.