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Here is the scene. I am in the living room at my laptop on a coffee table. My dad is in his recliner watching T.V. My mom is on her desktop.
My Mom asks me where she can find a certain video on her computer. Of course, I explain youtube to her. She is enjoying herself watching videos on youtube and I was showing her how to search for stuff.
When my Mom is listening to music my Dad keeps turning the volume of the T.V. louder and louder. He has a set of headphones so I suggest numerous times for him to put his headphones on. No, he can't do that. He is just so damn ornery that he keeps on doing this. My Mom finally turns her computer off, without saying a word, and she leaves the room. He asked her what was going on. Apparently he thought that the music was coming from my computer and that was why he was acting like that. End of story I have now evacuated the living room and my Mom has left the living room as well.
What a asshole. I got so fed up with his crap like this the other day that I told him that he was an asshole. He wasn't like this until about 6 months ago and now he is trying to control everything. I realize that this is a sign of depression but he won't get help or listen to anything that is said or suggested to him.
He can act abrasive to me by he really needs to lay off my Mom. She has already put up with enough of his shit to last two lifetimes from the last time he went off the deepend. He is lucky that she ever took him back. If he continues this could get ugly.
Funny, but until 6 months ago my Dad and I were very close. He is not acting normal and I don't recognize him. He is just not himself anymore. He has turned into a HUGE PRICK!
My Mom asks me where she can find a certain video on her computer. Of course, I explain youtube to her. She is enjoying herself watching videos on youtube and I was showing her how to search for stuff.
When my Mom is listening to music my Dad keeps turning the volume of the T.V. louder and louder. He has a set of headphones so I suggest numerous times for him to put his headphones on. No, he can't do that. He is just so damn ornery that he keeps on doing this. My Mom finally turns her computer off, without saying a word, and she leaves the room. He asked her what was going on. Apparently he thought that the music was coming from my computer and that was why he was acting like that. End of story I have now evacuated the living room and my Mom has left the living room as well.
What a asshole. I got so fed up with his crap like this the other day that I told him that he was an asshole. He wasn't like this until about 6 months ago and now he is trying to control everything. I realize that this is a sign of depression but he won't get help or listen to anything that is said or suggested to him.
He can act abrasive to me by he really needs to lay off my Mom. She has already put up with enough of his shit to last two lifetimes from the last time he went off the deepend. He is lucky that she ever took him back. If he continues this could get ugly.
Funny, but until 6 months ago my Dad and I were very close. He is not acting normal and I don't recognize him. He is just not himself anymore. He has turned into a HUGE PRICK!
Waiting to keep us in the loop with good news. We can all use some encouragement to see one of us succeed.
I hated living with my parents for 4 years after leaving my daughter's father. I thought I would go insane before I finally got my bachelor's and moved out. I took a crapp job just so I could move out and take care of myself and my child, I worked sometimes 2 jobs while living with my parents and went to school full time, like I said, I thought I was going to go nuts before I was able to move out.
Try not to let your dad get to you. Take your laptop and go into the kitchen and hang out with your mom. I'm sure she'd love having you there to sit and drink tea or coffee with.
I told him that it will be dry in a few hours and I will take it down. There is no need to hang it outside.
At that point he got really angry with me and called me a God Damn Son of A Bitch and threw my items up on the shower.
I had finally had enough of his shit. I told him that he was NOT to talk to me that way. I said that he was too controlling and he expected everyone to jump up and do stuff right then when he asked for it and that isn't the way things work. I told him that I am no longer a child and I can figure out things on my own. He needs to stop trying to tell everyone what to do and expect them to just jump up and do it.
Now he is storming around the house like a 2 year old child. Grow the Fuck UP....You are 64 years old, act like it!
Besides, this is a HUGE personality change that has happened over the past six months. He is sitting around (Retired a few years ago but in the last six months he finished most of the work that he wanted to do to the house), sugar is high, and he seems depressed. He won't listen to anyone about those things but he would rather bark orders to everyone and stress everyone else out, including my Mother, who definitely deserves to be treated better.
I had to fuss at him in order for him to buy a Valentines Day gift for my Mom, he wasn't going to get her anything. WTF?
Also, I heard that men talk in physical language, hugging, wrestling, that sort of things. Try giving him a big hug, see what that does, but don't let go of him unless he hugs back, even if he is grumpy :).
To me that is definitely depression talking there. That would explain mood swings and his lack of desire to do activities that he use to find fun.
I have been blunt with him and told him that he is depressed and he needs to talk to the doctor about it and he denies everything.