((((JennS))))~~

I'm sorry you're in so much physical pain and up to your eyeballs with family issues.

Helping your ex mother-in-law is very noble but if you aren't in a good place, I think it is detrimental. It's great if your son could help her out but, if not, that's one obligation you need to set aside for a bit.

How aggravating that the PET scan got delayed. I know that must be adding to your stress and anxiety. One thought that helps me in those times is that I have a limited supply of energy, concern, empathy, etc. I don't want to waste any of it until there is an actual situation to use those resources.

You may not have a psych ward in your town but there has to be something in Portland.

Hang in there and let us know how you're doing. We care!

I hate to say the " a" word (alternative medication) but caz3355 put up an awesome video in the " beyond medication " support group. The title of his discussion is Yoga.

The title is actually shoulder yoga. If that doesn't help there are lInks that might
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/beyond-medication

I feel terrible your going through so much with you and your family. If you want I will pray for you and your family members. Is it possible you could get a caretaker for your former MIL? Your husband's insurance. That really sucks your coverage didn't approve the PET. You have every right to your feelings. Speaking of alt treatment. Valarian may be helpful for pain. some herb books says its where valium is derived. One warnng. Smells like dirty sweats socks. Thers passionflower, wood betony too.

You have so much on your plate! I agree with BabyShelby on this one 100%.

Is it possible that you may also need a med tweak?

I think you should try and lighten your load and if that doesnt make you feel better, find a hospital..you dont need to suffer.

Although I'm not of a particular religion, I LOVE the phrase..."Let go and let God".

One moment at a time sweetie. We are here for you (((((JennS))))

thank you everyone. Yes, please pray for us. My husband told me that the dr. is going to write a letter to the insurance company to convince them to approve the PET scan. I've lightened my load and told my ex mother-in-law that I won't be able to help all the time. She understood. I will help her out once in a while. I'm glad I have so many people who care about me here. ((hugs))

It looks like you are taking the right steps to get rid of the stress. One thing I would recommmend taking a few minutes each day for yourself. Example take a long hot bath or shower. Another thing keep a joural may also help relieve the stress.
much love
Elizabeth

Good news JennS!

Keep doing what you're doing!

got some better news today. to get the insurance company to approve the PET scan, they are sending my husband to the oncologist next week. He was told the oncologist carries more influence with the insurance company than his doctor. before, the dr. was trying to get the scan and send the results to the oncologist.
Please pray that this direction works. thank you. ((hugs))

YEA!!!!!! I pray it all goes well!!!! Wishing you and yours relief ASAP!

Jenn: I'm happy you did some things to lighten your load. I wish you well with the insurance company with your husband. Of course I am wishing your mate well too and your former MIL

that's GREAT news about your insurance jenn.

would you consider taking a narcotic drug, like codeine, for the pain? sometimes ibuprofin just doesn't cut it. onc3e the body is not in pain, the mind can follow.

oh honey. I am so very sorry you are in both mental and physical hell. You have some good encouragement and advice here on DS.

I get a lot of pain too---My best tools are to stop denying it and start taking care of it. I know it sounds ridiculously simple, But most of us have not learned to take care of ourselves or listen to our bodies. I am a registered nurse and this is me. Caring for all the world and not myself.

The pain wants to be acknowledged-- to have a voice. write about it. pay attention to it. talk to us about it. nurture and care for that afflicted part and parts of your body-- your being as a whole.

And you are under extreme duress and STRESS. You can cope with stress if you use simple tools and do self care.

Food is important. Delicious nurturing healthy food. Don't feed your body junk.

Get as much rest as you possibly can.

Soak in a hot tub with a couple of cups of Epson salts in it. You can put in a peppermint tea bag or two for energy or a couple of bags of chamomile tea for rest and relaxation. Or both. It is a cheap spa experience.

Get a loofa and dry scrub or wet scrub your body. I swear that this wakes me energy wise. Use a calming body lotion like Aveeno. Give your self a facial.

Use ice packs on any parts that hurt for 30 minutes. Follow it by heat.

Take 10 minutes twice daily to meditate or pray. Sit quietly and breath in and out. focus on your breath.

I hope you feel better soon and dont "go crazy" (Ihave had those fears at times myself!! and worried about lock up)

I will say a prayer for you too. Please feel better soon.

and if you can---get massage--there might be a massage school in your area where you could get a free one. If I ever spend $ for myself, it is for a professional massage. No a beauty shop massage either. eych.

I'm so sorry you've been going through so much sweetie.. It's wonderful that the PET scan will be done soon and that you spoke to your MIL..
Great big hug of comfort for you.. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers..xo