Yes, beepers can and do trigger other beepers, but then we understand why it's happening and can relate. We are also very aware of when we cross the line. Others are clueless. (or can be...I'm not saying everyone).

But viejo has been a good friend for years now and to think he has to leave here because someone said practically every wrong thing you could say to a beeper, is absurd. I'm sure he will think twice before asking for support again...is THAT what we want?

I also am totally clueless as to why everyone agreed a week ago and now they don't. WTF? I can only assume it's because you can't read the original post and don't particularly believe my version. That's fine. But it happened and it was bad.

I'm fine with agreeing to disagree, but I stand firm on this site being for people with bipolar disorder. If there was no friends and family group, it would be a different story.

It would be the same as someone going into a cancer group and bitching about their spouse who has cancer cuz they feel sick all of the time. It's just totally inappropriate.

Thx for listening (or reading). I just feel sooo bad for viejo and no one seems to take that into consideration.

princess you are my friend but I will tell you the gods honest truth ok. Here goes...

I am pissed at the fact of people who refuse to welcome these family/friends of bipolar sufferers. They are coming on here seeking answers to help them better understand whats going on with there loved one. If my boyfriend came on here seeking support and I found out someone shunned him from getting answers I would be extremely angry with that person. If I were a family member/friend then I would want to go right to the source for answers. Get what i'm saying?

Bobbi... if Viejo has to leave here, its certianly not from anything I've said.... also as it has been said so many times before

If you not like a post or find it triggering dont read it!

I agree with you Bobbi, I think the group should mainly be people who have bipolar disorder. If I ask a question, I want answers from people in the trenches and I don't want a bunch of posts about supplements from normies who don't know what it is like to be bipolar. I don't mind an occasional question from a spouse as long as they are respectful and genuinely trying to get information.

Choc...it was a REPLY TO HIS POST....How do you ignore that? And no, nothing you said would make him leave, but that would.

Thx, Ele...knew you all were out there, just afraid to post.

Plz, rest assured, I am not upset with anyone at all for differing opinions....that happens, we are all human. Just trying to stand up for something I believe in.

Peace!

I think we should have a group hug! Repair all this damage.

Bobbi! I didnt see that post. I am sorry but I cant read every post ever put on here. I asked him to tell me which one and he didnt

I'm actually cool as long as they're here for support or to try to understand their spouses, friends, etc. better. But have been contacted by some people that have no connection with bp at all and for less than savory reasons. We're all here for a reason and it makes me question those who just "drop by". It's kinda like crashing a support group for something you don't have.Others may disagree with me and I'm open to that. This is just my opinion and from my experience.

Perhaps you could post a link for the friends and Family of BP's board.

"It would be the same as someone going into a cancer group and bitching about their spouse who has cancer cuz they feel sick all of the time. It's just totally inappropriate. "

I'm going to have to respectufully disagree Bobbie,

It's horrible to watch a parent suffer so when they are going through a terminal disease, but I will tell you, the caregiver is often the one who suffers more. I think it is totally appropriate for some of these sufferers to understand how hard it is on their loved ones after all who have to take care of them and watch them die. I don't know who has it worse, for, dieing certainly isn't easy, but it's hard to watch.

Not the best analogy to use, imo.

I guess I am a normie not sure about that I am about as far from being normal as they come. I came on here to learn more and be better able to support my husband. If you read my profile I have just as many things going on and some not listed I understand more then you would think. Out of respect I will leave the group. I did go over to the group section for spouses and family and it was very negative and no help or anything of use. I thank everyone who did help me out and open my eyes to somethings and give me a little more understanding. Thank you

see this is where l thought the crapy rail roading attitude might lead and it stinks....marie has been nothing but respectful as far as l've seen and due to the amount od negative shitty petty this is mine that is yours and never the two will meet crap she feels that the best course for her is to leave but what about her and others in her situation...l give the fuck up with this shitty attitude this is not why l came to DS and its beyond disappointing

marie i dont think you should leave, if you have questions i think this is the best place for you to gain the knowledge you need.
the problem people have is others coming here and dishing out advice when they have no personal experience of suffering this illness.
that ishow the problems arise. i also think f and f can be negative
hugs
mandie

People, let's all hug now. This thread has gotten all too heated. I think we all need to SUPPORT each other. I would be upset if someone attacked me too - bp or normal. Please, can't we all just get along. (As cliche as that is)

I don't want anyone leaving. This is awful. Like I said before, I have found tons of support here. Initially, I didn't join the group, but I am bp. I didn't know how the people on the miscarriage board would react, and that was my initial reason for coming on DS. I couldn't find a support group in my area.

Anyway, can't we just get along? Please, let's go back to being supportive.

Such a wonderful bird is a pelican ,
his beak can hold more than his belly can ,
he can hold in his beak , what would do for a week ,
and I dont know how the hell he can :-)

Come on , you know its probably the most sensible reply in this thread LOL