Bereavement Support Group
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I lost my husband this past Monday after 32 years of marriage and his dying was not an easy experience. Somehow I seem to just be numb without feeling anything. My husband had been ill for four months with kidney problems and we really thought at first he would make it. He was in Hospice at home for the last 9 days of his life and Hospice was very kind and compassionate. Before his passing I was crying all the time and on the morning of his death I cried for hours.
Now, it seems like I just feel nothing. I can't seem to get any one thing done. Am I losing my mind???
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
Here's the heart of the matter: Thirty-two years of marriage is a godly blessing & I'm sure that you each stood firmly together while sharing great love during hard times as well as many good times. And in the light of spiritual understanding, even though your husband seems as invisible, his soul is still nearby you to love you, soothe you & help share in the heaviness of heart you feel, and this is more or less the same as how he comforted you before, during times of stress & anxiety. What he hopes for now is that you still have faith in his personal spiritual support, which remains earthly, and is still greatly part of an enduring love for you. Your husband will always love you. And he does not desire that you carry such questionable grief.
Actually, what causes you to imagine losing your train of healthy thoughts is that this is largely due to wearisome mental & physical fatigue. You are emotionally & physically drained because lately so much of your time was spent in doing good works while obliging your husband's needs during his long days of illness. And it is normal to feel & think this way because something has changed that was very much significant to you & naturally you have questions & you deserve sensible, clear answers. However, understanding grief is better while gained in fixed stages, as you process grief in a productive way. Struggle not with too many powerful thoughts though. Put in a great effort for the purpose of finding moments of relaxation & quality of sleep is very important. Family & friendly help while in distracting conversations & actions of unhurried, fun body movements (in and outdoors) is a good idea as well. Stay active for the sake of well-being, emotional & physical.
What is admirable is that your husband was a brave man to put up such a faithful fight to live. Sweet it is that you are surely devoted to remembering him. However, the victory is that he did make it. Only it is a battle won while he is in a different sphere of existence & a place where there are the makings of constant spiritual peace & rest, no more pain. What is further hopeful is that you show sympathy & care for yourself now. We don't want for you to lose heart & wear out your thoughts & emotions. Trust your positive thoughts & feelings & please don't give up hope in your self-confidence. You've done well so far. And you are doing well for now. Just stay focused on striving to stay strong. God bless.
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What a blessing it is to have a god-sent daughter. I am so deeply moved by the heart-warming news of her. And in the same light of love in which you & your husband each shared, your dear daughter is the final great accomplishment which compliments that bond of love. Six miscarriages & then comes the birth of a fighter & survivor! Something of great worth is certainly planned for this beautiful angel! What a sense of purity she is! No worry with your words here, I understand that this is a sad time and that comes along with moments of divided ideas. I am very grateful to you for returning to share more of your thoughts & you are very welcome to all comfort at this time. God bless you & your dear daughter!
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Remiah always has such insightful thoughts and expresses so many things we all want you to know. The only thing I wish to add is that each of us has embarked on a personal journey and we will all come through this with God's great love and mercy for us. I am dealing with the loss of my 22 y/o daughter in a car accident at the end of July. She left behind a 2 year old son for which I now have permanent guardianship. I think God that his doctors and therapists think he will be high functioning as well. I believe God does not put more on us than we can bear and while being 63 and starting to raise a toddler is daunting, I know I will get the guidance and mercy I need to take care of him. I know you will be held in God's care as well. My advice to you is to go through the grief process at your own pace. Don't let others dictate to you where you should be in the process and how you should feel at a particular point time. Blessing to you and your daughter.
I disassociated after a loss so that I basically felt nothing.... I think it's a way to protect ourselves from extreme pain.... A RL bereavement group might help you a great deal to work through this painful process with a lot of support
We have a Widows and Widowers board on here that's quite active for people who've lost a life partner... People on there are in different stages of healing
I'm glad that you're here...... Gentle hug and a blessing.....xo
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/widows-widowers
I am so sorry about your loss. I too lost my husband - mine was very sudden (stroke). I do understand what you are feeling. Although this experience is slightly different for everyone, some of us experience shock at different times. You might also be convinced that you are not in shock - when indeed you are! Forgetfulness and inability to concentrate is completely normal. You sort of have to go with what your body can do/feel at your own pace. If you resist, your body will let you know. I was unable to "feel" for about six months after my husband's passing. I couldn't cry. Then eventually it just happened and you gradually adapt. It is brilliant that you found this group online because the support will be a tremendous help! I wish that I found this group after my husband passed two years ago. Be well! Hugs. Bryn