Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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jammeriw1 03/04/2018

Found today that I am pregnant. This is my first pregnancy at 35 years old.

I’ve suffered from anxiety my entire life, but I’ve really struggled the last 7 years or so. Terrible panic attacks for which I sought therapy and treatment for.

One of my biggest fears, since childhood, was pregnancy. My husband and I avoided sex for almost 2 years because I simply was terrified of getting pregnant.

But I didn’t want to lose my marriage, and I didn’t want to regret not ever having children. We slowly started having sex, but only when I knew I wasn’t there ovulating. Then I took it further, thinking it would take several months to get pregnant. We conceived on our second try.

I. AM. FREAKING. OUT.

I’m shaking, I don’t want to eat, I am just an uncomfortable ball of panic. Literally.

I did not think this would happen so quickly. I was on Zoloft, but went off I several months ago because I was afraid of potential harm it would do to a baby.

HAS ANYONE OUT THERE TAKEN ZOLOFT DURING PREGNANCY? IS IT SAFE?

All my research suggest 50/50. I have Xanax on hand, and again would LOVE to take it, but I won’t because I am terrified of how it could impact the baby.

I need help. I need support. I am terrified. I am trembling as I write this.

Any kind words would be truly appreciated

Seamus 03/04/2018

Check with your Doctor. I would think any meds could be harmful. But.... I'm no Doctor.

My niece had major anger issues all her life. She was on meds most of her life also. She married and somehow after her daughter was born, everything evened out. She takes no meds and is calm and happy. Her daughter is four and she's pregnant with a 2nd child.

Don't look at motherhood as a dilemma or a bad thing. Take each day as it comes. Don't expect to be a perfect mom. Just remember, your child will be a blessing.

I commend your husband for caring enough to understand and stay by your side.

Read baby books, try to stay calm. I'm sure your husband has his worries too.
Support each other and realize the miracle your going to bring into the world.....

patti22 03/04/2018

I didn't. But a former friends had all 3 of her children while on anti-depressants. All grown now and doing well.

https://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnancy-and-antidepressants#1

Mid 03/04/2018

Keep a journal. Use positive sayings to help push through any negative thoughts. Stay hydrated. Practice gentle movements to help release anxiety sensations naturally.

Know you are stronger than you realize. You can do this.

Best wishes

jammeriw1 03/04/2018

Thank you to everyone to commented.

Mid - your comment made me cry (happy relief tears). Thank you so much

Your support, even from complete strangers, means so much to me - I can never express it online.

towersofgold 03/04/2018

I would recommend looking up positive birthing experiences on Youtube. Talk to your doctor or midwife or even a therapist. I know there are plenty ways of giving birth that may help like hypno-birthing or home birthing that could make you feel more relaxed.

i'm a 17 year old boy so not really qualified to answer this but all in all i'm sure you will be an amazing mother and think of what you'll have at the end! a whole human!!!

i know you can get through this!!!!!

Sparrow35 03/06/2018

Sounds like you have had a lot to process. We all have different fears in life, and thus can understand what it feels like to be afraid of something. As a mother of 2 myself, I can speak to both the joys and frustrations of motherhood, it truly is a whirlwind of emotions. Yet, there is such strength in honesty, and reaching out for help when we need it...I am proud of you for showing your strength in both! My primary advice for you is to schedule a doctor's appointment as soon as possible. I think it would be potentially helpful for you to gain a greater knowledge of what pregnancy means for your life, body, emotions, mental health and so on. Thus, I may begin by asking friends or family for recommendations on doctors or simply googling doctors in your area and combing through their reviews until you find one you are comfortable with trying. As for the medication questions, they would be best able to answer those too. Above all continue to take care of yourself, and continue sharing your thoughts out loud, find some healthy outlets to cope with those emotions and you will continue to grow stronger through them. Best wishes to you!

Brielle 03/06/2018

First off, congratulations.. second, take a deep breath and try to relax. You should go to a doctor to check out the health conditions of you and the baby. After that, be excited babies are a bundle of joy, which may take away from some of your anxiety. I'm the same way when it comes to side effects of medication, we hope and pray for happy thoughts and a healthy and happy baby. Remember to breathe and know that you're not in this alone, I'm not a mom but I know that being a mom can be stressful. You got this!! Stay Positive!

aliceinblunderland 03/06/2018

I took zoloft while nursing my daughter.
It is the safest as it has the least amount of transfer to breastmilk and I believe also to the baby if you are pregnant.
I am sorry you are struggling.

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