Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I have a new friend that is Autistic and Bipolar. I don't know the types or levels, but this friendship is already proving to be a challenge. My level of anxiety is now being tested as I try to be helpful but seem to be falling short. Some days are great, other days I'm ghosted and left wondering if I did something wrong. Although not directed at me, I have already seen an ugly side that worries me.
With my anxiety, do you think this friendship is even workable? I've already had a few restless nights worrying about this. I don't think I can handle the uncertainty of chaos and drama. Help!
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
I went to school with autistic people......And friends of ours, have a down syndrome son who is autistic, and noon-verbal, (I have seen the uggly side of him) u can understand some stuff, not much, It's frustrating, for him, cause, he wants to be able to teach people younger then him how to do thing's, But he doesn't know how.. But, they are teaching us, in ways we don't understand, How to be patient, kindness caring, and humility.
With any disability the key is, patient's, they have good days and bad.
But Yah, there is alot of anxiety there, And yah, They do get frustrated, The best thing You can do is, support, they also need alot of support.
I also look more into it, research it, It is a complex disability..
They do ghost You, You didn't do anything wrong
The friendship is workable, Just be understanding and supportive
to my mind, all friendships are workable, even when it takes increased social distances to make them work. my own anxiety levels are my own measure on how much social distance i need for making a relationship work. trying to figure out why other people do what they do or what they might be thinking is more work than i can accomplish. reading my own anxiety levels is far more accurate and easier to work with.
but that is me and every friendship is unique.
steadying support while you find what works for you. welcome aboard.
This is one of the many failures of treating anxiety like a medical problem. A lot of time people and situations make us anxious because they ate wrong for us. You are only gaslighting yourself by blaming your anxiety.
Why do you want to be their friend.
But that’s just me. Keeping my anxiety manageable has to be a priority and I agree that our anxiety is there for a reason it’s letting us know we are in an unsafe predicament. Listen to what it’s telling you .
I also have worked with them, and can tell You, they like autistic folks like to do their own.......Have You talked the person's parent/gaurdien about your concerns?
I'll see where this goes. Thank you all for your comments and sharing.
Having boundaries that protect us is important no matter what psychological ability/disability the other person might have. I've come to the conclusion that having anxiety means that our brains a more active when it comes to picking up/personalizing the social cues that the other person is letting off. Because of this we have to be very protective of our energies.
One suggestion would be to educate yourself further about bipolar disorder and autism by reading reliable resources ( https://yourmentalhealthpal.com/understanding-what-is-bipolar-disorder/ ). This can help you better understand their experiences and provide insight into their behavior.
Open and honest communication is key. Talk to your friends about your concerns, expressing your willingness to support them while explaining your anxieties. Establishing boundaries and letting them know how their actions impact you is important. Additionally, consider seeking support for yourself, such as talking to a therapist or joining a support group for friends and family of individuals with mental health conditions.
Ultimately, only you can decide if this friendship is workable based on your own needs and capabilities. Remember to prioritize your well-being while being compassionate and understanding toward your friend's challenges.