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Moving, and how to tell everyone

BriaLeCiriox
BriaLeCiriox
After 3 years of distance, I have finally decided to move to be closer to my boyfriend (of 5 years) and extended family. BUT my parents are super over protective, and my dad is a control freak. He feels like anything in my or my sister's life is happening to him, and this causes him to freak out on us. I am VERY happy about this move, which I might add I will not be making for at least 6 months, but I'm freaking out about how to tell my dad. Last time I moved my dad forced himself into it. He just started taking the boxes and driving them to the new place before the moving company came.

Any suggestions about how to lay daddy down easy about the move?
Community LeaderMid
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Why is it so important to tell your dad? Six months, three months, moving time...set a schedule, work through all the logistics, make everything as organized as you possibly can, work through all your feelings as well before you talk to your dad. In other words, take care of you first, sort out everything you are thinking about.

Best wishes. Some things we just have to face head on, with our courage, bravery, and determination that we can do it, no matter what.
sbnj
sbnj
Unless you need his help......don't even tell him your moving. Wait to say anything till your already done moving.
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
Unless you are underage I don't really see any reason to be very worried about telling your father. If anything he should be happy about it, unless of course he dislikes your boyfriend or something along those lines. I would just tell him straight forward, you're moving in with your boyfriend and if he has any legit reasons to be concerned then talk to him about them, if it's just him being overprotective unnecessarily then tell him and just keep it moving.
Reed31
Reed31
I agree. If you're an adult, it's not about asking permission or for his blessing. It's about telling him what you're going to do. Yes, you could sneak out and not tell him, but that seems immature.

If you have a fairly good relationship with him, telling him you love him and you care about his opinion but you need to strike out on your own and you'll be back for visits, it's the best way to show that you can handle yourself.

One of the signs of maturity is living your own life exactly as you want to live it and handling any consequences that come up. Your dad sounds like he cares a lot and wants to be sure you're okay. If you can leave things with him in such a way that he knows you care about him but you're going to live your life, it leaves the door open for a future relationship.

But realize you have every right to live your life any way you want.
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