I am so, so SO SORRY. Years ago, I was engaged to a man who I thought was the love of my life. He cheated on me with multiple women and broke up with me via computer. When I tried to call or confront him after, he wouldn't answer his phone, or would dodge me. I was devastated, and the worst part was that I didn't get any closure. As awful as it was to hear her tell you every detail, I think you truly needed to hear that. Your heart will thank you later, because closure is a big step in the healing process. You are going to have a rough few weeks getting used to this new phase of your life without her, but I PROMISE you, it will get better. The hardest part will be the routine of your relationship. Days will feel empty and abnormal because the things you used to do with her won't be happening anymore. My advice is to fill those spaces with new memories. Go to the Pub with your friends. Spend time outside of the house so that your mind isn't constantly thinking of her. Watch a funny movie, talk to friends and family about your emotions, or come here to dailystrength.org and vent. Take comfort in knowing that you will find another love of your life.. An even bigger love of your life... In the future, when you're ready. As hard as it is, accept this and forgive her. Not for her, but for YOU. To help YOU move on with your life. Your heart is broken but it will heal. This too shall pass. Trust in knowing that for whatever reason, this wasn't meant to be. And trust in knowing that your love is still out there, and yes, you will find her. I can say I am happily married to another man now, and we have two beautiful children but years ago, when my heart was broken, I could have never imagined that. Sending you hugs, wishing you strength. Stay strong, be good to yourself and know that this will get better.

I am so sorry to hear this. I know how you feel. I was with my ex boyfriend from 12-20. so in love.

the best advice I can give you is GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO BE SAD. think and think and think until it hurts, because one day you'll wake up and that won't be your first thought anymore. And that will be the day you know you are FREE. whether that's a month, a year, or whatever time. I promise you it gets better.

I realize it takes a long time to build a loving relationship like this, but there will be other loves of your life, believe me. The next woman of your dreams could be right around the corner, just not at the pub. Exercise. It's what I do, whether my life is good or shit. What I don't understand is why your wife-to-be was so stressed out about the wedding that she felt she had to step out on marriage altogether. A wedding is only one day, for God's sake. I'd ask her was it really worth stepping out of a good relationship that was 10+ years in the making because one day stressed her out? It must've been one big, elaborate wedding..

Take a moment to grieve the loss. Take a moment to appreciate your ability to ask and receive answers. The relationship was not a waste of your time or love. Forgive the person and their words, not for them, for your well-being. When you process the changes, also change your response, to give your self the space to take the step forward. Go out, do things, use distraction, hydration, exercise, and breathing as needed to help you keep in the moment. It does get better and you will find someone who is not afraid to work on a relationship and stay connected through time. Best wishes!

Agree with mideyebrow, ANY relationship, that brought you love and pleasure, that made you learn some things, was not a waste of time. And now the learning still continues!