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imiru
imiru

I had a pretty bad scare the other day when my boyfriend made love to me but finished inside me. I was frozen in fear and confusion. I had to hold back tears and raising my voice as I asked him why he did it. He just started vacantly at me and said he thought I was on birth control. 


I haven't been on birth control for the past year due to me switching meds for my depression twice and I didnt want my hormones to be anymore chaotic.


After I sat stone still and cried a little we both got up and got the Plan B pill. The next day I got a second period and at first I was relieved.....and then I broke down and felt sick while I cried. My biological clock wants a child but I am not ready for one. 


All day long I keep thinking about if I had let it grow. My mind is so torn and I feel like an irresponsible monster.

peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I think you should go see your family doctor. No, I do not think it is gross. It is just a normal human function. There are many people had an accidanat.
SilentWhispr
SilentWhispr
Don't be so hard on yourself. You don't even know for sure if you'd have gotten pregnant from the one time. It seems like if you and your boyfriend are very close and you've been off the pill a year...he surely should have known about it. That's pretty risky. I'd say this was a wake up call for you to be more responsible and go on from here. Your time will come when you are ready for a baby....and you'll be "making one"...instead of having an accident.
anon10101101
anon10101101
be easier with your self. Ive had alot of friends in situations like this. Most of them where to scared or nervous to talk to their boyfriends about their true feelings. For two I even had to force their boyfriends to hear them. My point is maybe if he truly new the conflict within you your heart would be more at ease, at least more then it is now. Depression is heavy and if you have bipolar I can see how it might be so much worst. Try talk it out with him. At least see his time frame if he would want a child. Men seem to be not so open with it sometimes even cowardly, the thought of a child can scare a man. You have every right to feel the way you do. Just talk to him and from there make decisions. Yes do see a doctor to be better inform.
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Imiru, big scare and big hurt. Until you are ready, use a female condom (dental dam), or request he use a condom. Safe sex is protection from pregnancy, but also from the many diseases that can be transmitted. Just an FYI: my parents first raised her 3 younger siblings, so we 4 came along in her 30;s; older sister had 1st of her 3 at 34; two nieces had theirs in their 30's. You have time to prepare for this. Calming and comforting hugs.
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