I know that such a major change would give me plenty of panic attacks and scarey moments, even if I wanted the marriage to be over. This is probably the last thing you want to hear, but it will get better over time. It's only been a couple of weeks. Maybe there is a support group you can join for people getting divorced? Are you in talk therapy and/or on meds? In my experience these also help. I'll pray for you.

Do you live somewhere you can have a pet? They are great company and may make you feel less afraid. Hugs!

Take a moment to write out the tasks you are doing to feel "safe". Now, the next time you feel the need to recheck everything, add something good for you for taking the time to make you feel "safe". You are changing the way the panic attacks work by moving, by focusing "in the moment". You can not change what happened, however, you can change how it affects you by doing what you are doing, making changes that help. You are not alone, best wishes.

Shame I feel so for you. It must be hard. I cant say I know what its like to loose a husband but I know what its like to loose a boyfriend and i just kept loosing them. Then one day I picked up this book from Joel Osteen ....your best life now and it really gave me hope. I started to focus on the positive things in my life... I just kept believing that things would get better. I went for lots of councelling and kept busy. I was also on meds so I changed my medication.

You could get a security system. Find out what you could get for do it yourself security if you can't afford system.

Hi guys thank you all for your messages i have had a really bad day today but i feel that the break down i had today was something i needed. I do have 2 cats and they have not left my side and funny enough are helping alot. Im glad i found this support website speaking to people going through similar issues is really helping xx

I'm sorry you are going through this. Sudden changes can certainly bring about anxiety. Have you considered maybe having a friend or relative stay with you while you adjust to this new change? My prayers are with you that you have peace knowing your Heavenly Father is protecting you ((hugs))

My heart goes out to you. I was divorced about 5 years ago and felt the same way. Then I started reaching out and getting out into the community. I joined a Pickleball group at the rec center, a singles group at my church (not for dating but for support), a games group (cards and things). And what I found is that there are a TON of women of all ages who live entirely on their own. Most break in's happen during the day if no one is home. It is exceptionally rare for anyone to break in at night and if they do, they typically want to avoid you. Most people want to break in, take stuff they can access and sell easily and get out fast.

I also purchased a "ring" for my house. It's a doorbell that I can answer wherever I am so people don't know if I'm home or not. It also captures any motion, even if people don't ring the bell. And it has an intercom on it so I can talk with people at the door. I also bought a security system although that may have been overkill for my quiet neighborhood.

I'm also considering getting a roommate just because I prefer not to live alone.

Take steps to take your control back and feel comfy in your nest. It's important that you're able to get the rest you need and to feel home is a haven.