Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
i wasn't really sure where i post this, but i'm feeling anxiety over it so i thought here would be good....so i have an older friend who is in her late 30's and she has 3 girls....next wednesday she's going on a field trip with her oldest who is the only one in school and wants me to babysit the other two....the thing is her house is so incredibly messy it makes me anxious.....like it's awful.....i said i was sorry and that i couldn't.....and now i feel like she's mad at me and i feel guilty.....i've done a lot for her and she has for me.....i mean i've bought last minute groceries for her for a birthday party and stuff like that and she's done stuff for me.....i should be able to say no to this without feeling guilty right??? i mean her 4 year old throws fits and tantrums when she doesn't get her way and she'll bite, kick, scream, hit, spit do a bunch of stuff if she doesn't get her way.....should i feel guilty??? should i text her back and say i will babysit??? she didn't text back after i said i wouldn't so i think she might be mad, but....i have the right say no, right??
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My day...today...misplaced my debit card...didn't realize it until I got to the register after shopping to a full cart. Used a different debit card and pulled apart everything looking for missing debit card before I left parking lot. Got home, dropped keys. So now I have a missing debit card, missing keys. A full cartload to unload and put away. I got everything put away.Dumped purse for a...
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I don't really know how to label this but I having a rough week and I can't say it's one thing.... I have a lot on my plate which is nothing new and I try to cope in many positive ways and do but I still have my moments.My kids more so my daughters talk to me about everything which I know it's cause of comfort and we are close.... however I really struggle with the venting about their dad which...
The house being messy enough to put you into anxiety tells me that there are serious problems within the home life itself, and no, you should not help in this way. As canaan puts it, there are many other ways you can help.
I can tell this situation is really upsetting you, and I hate that it is making you feel upset. But let me assure you that you absolutely, 100% have the right to say no... and saying no does not, in any way make you a bad person.
In fact, I am proud of you because by saying no, you are being assertive. We all have needs, every single one of us. And those needs are valid. It sounds like you are used to putting other's needs before your own, and that saying no to people is difficult for you. But it is important to remember that your needs are important too, just as important as anyone else's, and it's important you respect those needs. In this situation, by saying no, you did exactly that.
You have to let it go and let yourself be important this time. Its ok!
If she doesn't like you for this...than really that is not a true friend.
You don't have to explain yourself. You are just unable to babysit.
Period.
If she knows you she must know that you have high anxiety and actually it was selfish of her to ask you in the first place.
If it comes up...I would just tell her honestly...that I was not the babysitting kind...it makes me too anxious and nothing against your kids...its all inside me.