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keaton
keaton

I went on a date for the first time in years tonight. I think it went well but I'm nervous that she won't accept me for who I am and that's always my biggest fear. It felt weird to get out again but I enjoyed it. 

loren1974
loren1974
Hey thats great! Try not to over think it. You got out there and that is what important.
GratefulPhoenix
GratefulPhoenix
That is commendable. Well done. I wish I was in your shoes! Let the fear go. Maybe she will appreciate you and maybe not; it’s not the point. You’re not going to please everyone you meet because you’re not tacos. So you just keep putting yourself out there until you find the connection you’re looking for. Sooner or later this will occur. Congrats.
rmb
rmb
Good for you!

That’s actually the point of dating: you get to meet people and find out who you connect with and who you don’t. Think of it less about whether someone will accept you and more about compatibility. It takes the pressure off.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
It's more of checking out the moments with different people.

Good work!
mtd
mtd
I’ve taught my grandson that dating is simply like trying on shoes. It may take trying on several pairs before you find the pair that fits good. Putting all your hopes in the first person that comes along is setting yourself up for failure. It is not a realistic approach no matter how bad you want it to work. Take the time to get to like yourself first and develop confidence. Then you can approach this dating thing on better terms instead of feeling like you do. Ideally, you would want to make sure SHE fits your needs as well. Right now it seems to be all dependent on her, but it takes two people to make a relationship, not one.
maria718
maria718
Wow that's great, I'm SO glad you got yourself out there!! Most important, I'm glad you enjoyed it!! If you want, ask her out again, but don't jump into a relationship with the first person that comes along. Date her a few more times, and make sure you get to know her and like her!
malibumark
malibumark
Way to go!! That’s brave and also a sign you’re feeling good about yourself eh? You’re giving yourself what you want!!’ People have many sides so please I hope you have a second date and keep faith alive!! Kudos!!
ReaDyO
ReaDyO
Hey congratulations. The fact is you went on a date and you enjoyed yourself. If there is a possibility she won't like you for you then there is a possibility she will like you for you. If she ends up saying she is not interested try your best not to take it so personal. Know that you are worth being loved and it will happen sooner or later. Be patient and enjoy the dating phase. Get to know them first and enjoy the process.
Candygurl
Candygurl
She might also be having the same thoughts. If you had fun, she probably did too. Try to include some positive thoughts along with the worrying :)
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