good for you to calm yourself!

Sometimes when I first wake up I feel like that, I either fall back asleep or get out of bed and do something to get my mind off of it. I know how terrible you must feel at times because of it, you're not alone in that feeling.

i'm sorry you are suffering with this intense fear....

do you have a therapist with whom you could work through this with?

talk therapy along with possibly CBT might help you a great deal...

take good care.

I have this same fear. As a matter of fact, it is one of my biggest panic triggers.

I am 60 years old and had a heart attack 8 years ago. I am afraid of dying but not of being dead. I know that sounds strange but if i had another HA and couldnt get treatment quickly enough , just lying there thinking Im about to die kinda freaks me out. I think once Im actually
dead ,I probably wont know it , so that part doesnt scare me.

I would encourage you to seek treatment so you can enjoy the time you
do have. Statistically , at your age, that is a lot more years. Wear your seat belt and the actuarial tables say you have a really good chance of seeing 80.

I appreciate life more after my visit to death's door.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am also one who fears dying but not death. I am afraid of pain.

I read a book a few years ago that really helped with my fear of death. This and many, many other accounts tell the same story. It is not scary and horrible, but is more of a feeling of freedom, light and well-being as you've never experienced.

http://www.amazon.com/Proof-Heaven-Neurosurgeons-Journey-Afterlife/dp/1451695195

This is one of my worst fears also, probably because I know it will definitely happen one day, unlike other things in life.

I do actually have a therapist. I actually see her in a couple of days. I really like talking to her because she actually remembers things I tell her.

When you die you're not there. You're not there in the same way as you were not there before you were born.

You don't feel anything. You don't experience anything. You aren't there.

So there is nothing to fear. There is nothing to worry about. Only when you are alive is there anything whatsoever to fear.

If you allow yourself to really think through being dead you will find it releases. It's a non-issue. Delve right into it. Go deep inside it. Walk towards the fear, and stay right inside the fear until it releases.

And then it's gone forever.

If dreams I've been having where I meet and hang out with my deceased brother are any indication, there is no death, and the other side is very peaceful, filled with love, contentment and ever-expanding knowledge.

Dy-ING scares me, but the actual passing on, through that conduit, is gonna be WONDERFUL. It'll be like a neverending dream. Free of this physical body, you can fly, you can order up love, social contact, anything you desire and anything you felt deprived of here "on demand", just think it, want it and it's there. And if you want to feel nothing at all, just rest awhile, you can do that too. And when you get bored and want to feel useful, you'll receive the ideal "job placement", placed where you'll be most needed and where you'll achieve the most joy, satisfaction, according to your unique talents and personality makeup. In short, I believe you'll love it.

It's LIVING HERE that's hard. Deprivation, isolation, loneliness, so much lack. There never seems to be enough money, enough love, enough positive knowledge and reinforcement.

koolman> Thanks for the reply. I liked what you said. Finally getting what I want would be nice. I agree that living here is what's hard. But i'm still scared.