Self discipline is like a muscle; the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets. Keep "working out" and you will be surprised how strong you grow!

It was self discipline for years. As practiced it, I got better at it. Now, when I go to extended family, I don't think that it is self discipline. I simply don't want it.

Make sure you have a non alcoholic beverage in your hand when others are drinking. Keep it light and refreshing. And great job on making it through your Aunt's party! It gets easier, especially now that you know you don't have to drink at family gatherings.

Congrats. 2 months is awesome.

Congrats on 2 months! Those first 60 days are the toughest and you should be very proud of your accomplishment! Sure, the temptation of family events and other social obligations where alcohol is available will always be there and your resolve will strengthen over time. I find a lot of strength in my recovery community and working the steps. I've tried doing it alone in the past and relapsed after nearly one year. I discovered that being sober is just one step in the process of recovery and finding new resolve to maintain my sobriety as I uncover the root causes of my drinking. Wishing you continued success in your walk towards a new life!

In the beginning I would avoid situations like that, unless they were alcohol free. Over time, I could go to those kinds of functions without being triggered by others drinking because I felt like I was at a much higher level then those who were drinking and getting drunk.

Congratulations on 2 months. I remember it took me about 2 months before I started to feel better. After that, my life began to slowly get better.

God Bless

Anyone have any good replacements for alcohol that are a little fun and not just water or iced tea ( I can't have that ) ?

Than y'all for the encouragement and feedback so far!

So far I learned that brain fog can last 3 to 6 months, I hope this time will go by quickly

Congrats on 2 months that's a big achievement! Well done xxx

Congratulations on 2 months that is great!! I found that I really can't count on myself to rely on self discipline, not consistently anyway. In the beginning of my sobriety I just avoided events where there was booze altogether. At some point in sobriety I became okay being around it and not being tempted. I imagine that being comfortable around it takes different amounts of time for different people.

I feel like as long as I keep myself focused on my sobriety, being positive and grateful, accepting the things I can't change, trying to do the right thing and be a good person, it's much easier for me to not drink. When I start to feel myself slipping away and becoming more negative inside my head, I know it's time to reset my brain and enjoy some meditation or reading a book on being positive and mindful.

It's easier w family because my family doesn't drink to excess, just a few socially. However, I do not like hanging out w drunk people while I am sober. They are annoying (although I am probably getting what I deserve LOL) and it isn't fun for me at all. So, I've decided not to do those activities anymore. As I change and learn different things I like, I might not spend time with the same people. Gotta live life for myself.

Best of luck.

I agree with the non alcoholic drink in your hand my new go to drink is an Arnie Palmer. Half lemonade half iced tea. I also found that sharing my struggle with getting sober with my family helped a lot too. I felt accountable not only to myself, but to my family and close friends. I decided early on I wasn't going to avoid situations because eventually I was going to be around others who where drinking. I just always allow myself to leave if I am getting uncomfortable and I am honest saying I am uncomfortable and leaving.

Hello timoA,

Congratulations on passing the two month mark – that is a great achievement.

In the early days, I avoided going to places where people were drinking as I was advised that the temptation would be too much. Today, I can go anywhere without fear of being enticed to drink. I cannot predict the future so I have no way of knowing if I will ever drink again. However, I have no desire to drink today and cannot see any situation where I would drink tomorrow. I fully accept that I am an alcoholic and can never drink safely, something that I have learned through AA.