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History of bedwetting?

midnight77
midnight77
How long have you guys dealt with the problem -- through your whole childhood and adult life, or have you had some "dry" years in between? Has your frequency of wetting increased or decreased over the years, and if so, what do you think caused the change(s)?

I grew up wetting the bed every night until I was about 12, and after that it reduced dramatically pretty quickly, but I still had a few odd accidents a year throughout my teen years -- usually when I was really over-tired or had a lot to drink. Then when I was in college the problem got worse for me (I think due to a combination of stress, poor sleep habits, and caffeine intake) to the point where I was wetting anywhere between once and several times a week. After I finished with college and grad school things settled back down for me a bit, and I'm able most of the time now to wake up when my bladder is full before things get too critical. I've always had a small bladder and have had to wake up and get to the bathroom during the night in order to stay dry -- so if I'm really tired or stressed and sleeping more soundly than usual, it's still an accident waiting to happen, even to this day.

How about you guys -- what ups and downs have you experienced with this problem? Do you still hold out hope to become completely "dry" in the future, or have you resigned yourselves to trying to do the best you can with knowing it will probably never completely stop? That's still a hard one for me; I'd still really like to stop for good, but I know the odds aren't really good for me "outgrowing" anything at this stage.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am 58 years old and have wet the bed for over 44 years I also wet my pants during the daytime.I wet myself about once an hour. I also have no bowel control.I wet the bed 3 to 4 times every night.I have been wearing diapers for over 25 years. I have tried catheters but would always end up with wet pants. Also it was very hard for me to go through the day with my underpants filled up with poop. Before adult diapers became available I would just have to take a change of clothes with me. I had a spinal cord injury when I was 14 years old and my doctors tell me that even if I have surgery I will still have to wear diapers the rest of my life. I am single I have been to ashamed to date a girl. Once they find out that I wear diapers they run for cover. If I go on a date without diapers I end up with wet pants or worse.
CJinNM
CJinNM
I am currently 43 years old. I wet my bed on-and-off through my childhood years. Sometimes frequently, sometimes I'd go a couple months without an accident. I tended to develop physically a bit later than most of my peers so no one in my family ever seemed to got too bent out of shape about it. It seemed like I was maybe starting to outgrow it in high school but right around my senior year of HS and my freshman year of college, I finally hit a growth spurt and my nighttime control never recovered. I've wet pretty consistently most nights since I was in college and now that I have more global incontinence issues including the daytime, wetting every night is expected.
Dippityduf
Dippityduf
I wore cloth diapers and either plastic or rubber panties at night from the age of 3 to age 19 due to panic attacks from a horrific hospital stay when I was three years old. I was finally dry at night a month before my 19th birthday, but when I went home, my mom diapered me even though I assured her I had been dry for a month. Of course, I was wet in the morning, and had to wear them during the holidays while I was home. Went back to school, and was dry within a couple of days. I stayed dry until I was 46 yrs old. Went to Saudi Arabia as part of Desert Shield and Desert Storm, came down with dysentery, and beaver fever, which went untreated for seven months. When finally treated for it, became incontinent over the course of the following year. Leaks, dribbles, and finally wetting myself during the day and night. I am probably permanently incontinent now, as I have been wearing diapers for the past 22 years.
ST50
ST50
I was a chronic bedwetter as a kid. I was only occasionally dry before my teens. During my teenage years gradually it decreased but it was my early 20's before I was reliably dry at night. My bedwetting came back to haunt me a little over a year ago. and is due to a combination of diabetic nerve damage, an overactive bladder and an enlarged prostate. I have been warned I will probably have to live with it for the rest of my life. Dealing with bedwetting is so much easier nowadays with the advances in disposable products and bed protection. To be honest it is not a big problem now I've accepted it. I refuse to let it restrict my life and with the support of my amazing wife I just get on with life and deal with things accordingly.
ziedane
ziedane
all my life ever since i born
i pee the bed every night
every time i go sleep
i will pee
hopefulgirl
hopefulgirl
Have had a few days, weeks and sometimes a month, two or three dry but that's the most. Has been a problem all my life.
ziedane
ziedane
all my life sine i born i pee the bed every night
and every time i sleep i still pee the bed
every night k
fynlee
fynlee
To my male friends with incontinence,

I can now say there may be a simple solution for you...and me, since I have a moderate case of incontinence. Read my earlier message below, which will explain why I'm optimistic for you. Best wishes. D.

"Since my prostatectomy eight years ago, my incontinence remains at the moderate to severe level. For over two years I have been developing a device, a silicone sleeve, that now may be comfortably worn all day (and all night), requires no removal or adjustments before or after urinating, and allows me to be active, including jogging or working in the yard. I need volunteers willing to test my product and complete a survey questionnaire after 30 days or so. The number one priority is comfort, followed by convenience and performance. I was not one to use devices that required removal and reset during restroom stops nor devices which greatly impeded my lifestyle, hence my search for something better than anything presently available. BTW, I use it every day and so it's effectiveness is not in question. Before I commit to production and marketing, I'd like to gain positive support from an unbiased group. Do us both a favor and contact me at amhelp@comcast.net. Fynlee"
NW47guy
NW47guy
I was a child bed wetter, I was told it was related to my emotional state. I wet off and on between age 7 and 16 I think it was that I stopped wetting the bed. Then it started again at age 47, I went to 2 doctors and an urologist and the full battery of tests was ran including an ultra sound on my bladder both full and empty. For me, the signal from the bladder to the brain stopped working like it should and used to, they had no explanation as to why this signal stopped working.
Laurascott1309
Laurascott1309
I wet the bed every night at 15
ST50
ST50
I still wet the bed every night.
ST50
ST50
I have been back to nightly wetting for well over 7 yeas now. I grew up a chronic nightly bedwetter and wasn't reliably dry at night until my early 20's. Throughout my adult life I have had episodes of bedwetting that lasted from an od night to sometimes several weeks. Then after a long dry spell I stated wetting again and this time it never really stopped.. Within 6 months I was wetting most nights and soon after every night. I've not been dry at night since I turned 50.
ST50
ST50
I was a chronic nightly bedwetter growing up. It came back in my late 40s. I am never dry at night now.
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