My story is very similar. I was everynight til 12 or 13 and now I am averaging a couple times a month. Stress I think makes it worse sometimes and other times it seems to happen for no reason at all. I dont think I will ever "outgrow" it either.

I am incontinent because of a genetic disease, Marfan Syndrome. Marfan patients' parts wear out early. It attacked my spinal column, pinching and irritating several peripheral nerves, including the nerves which manage bowel and bladder control. My introduction on the Incontinence board gives more detail.

The ups and downs have been remarkable. Sometimes my bosses have been less than supportive, and have gone out of their way to make my life miserable. Other times friends and family have come to my aid, especially while I was recovering from surgeries. Only a few ignorant folk have confronted me directly about my incontinence; my neurological deficits are much more obvious and have caused me much more difficulty. Sometimes, when I'm having difficulty walking, or when I have just fallen, the looks on by-standers' faces speak volumes, none of it printable.

I was dry at a normal age, but always had to get up 2-3 times a night to go. I'd usually wake up in the morning or the middle of the night with stabbing pains, just in time to go to the bathroom. This went on between my childhood and mid twenties. All along, I've always had what seemed to me to be an unusually frequent urge to go to the bathroom. I always have to go much more than other people.

With the exception of a couple of accidents at night during college, I didn't have any problems until I was in my mid mid twenties, when I wet several times in the course of two weeks. This coincided with a minor injury sustained while mountain biking, which led to an infection that went on for a while before I started wetting the bed. After that, it became only occasional, maybe once every several months.

I didn't think much of it because it was infrequent, and at the time I thought I could attribute it to a specific cause each time. I thought that it happened when I didn't feel well, was tired, took allergy or cold medication, drank caffeine too late at night, you name it. As time went on, I realized that there were an increasing number of "causes", which indicated that they were probably just factors, not causes. On top of that, I've always been very athletic, including some sports that are rough on the body.

The problem gradually became more frequent as I progressed into my 30s. At this point, I'd say the "average" would be that I wet one or two times a week, but that does not mean, that it happens weekly. I can have periods without problems, just to go into a week or two when it happens almost every night. Two years ago, I had a solid month of problems, then went into a month without any. It's very strange and makes little sense. I've been examined and prodded left and right, no apparent problems.

At this point I "hope" to not have accidents any more, but the lack of consistency of these problems points to this continuing. As a result I deal with the frustration when I have an accident, and the worry that I might have one, when I'm traveling or dozing off on a plane or something. It does affect my life a lot, because I have to modify my behavior so much, both during the day and at night.

adam77,
Last Friday I had a cystometrogram, the first in some ten years. It showed that my bladder capacity is four ounces; after that leakage begins, which I sometimes feel and sometimes I do not. My urologists have told me that I will be incontinent 24/7 for the rest of my life, so I'd better learn to cope. Both my urologist and her nurse are female, which pushed the embarrassment quotient really high. I guess, knowing that I will never become dry, my ego investment is in my coping skills rather than in having dry days.

Wow. The "History" angle is something I'd like to see some really solid statistics on - I've seen statistics that range from 1% to 3% of adults, but what EXACTLY does that mean ? Is that the percentage of adults who have EVER wet the bed? Or is that the ones who wet the bed "regularly"? And does regularly mean almost every night, once a week/month/year/ or what ?

My own history of it has three "stages", and seems to be mostly psychological rather than physical (I've been tested for diabetes etc to rule out physical causes):

- As a child, I went through bouts of it between 8 and 15 years old, coinciding with peaks in a home environment that was very abusive both physically and sexually. It stopped when I was 15 and the state and some relatives intervened.

- When I was about 22, I went through a really bad episode of depression and the bedwetting returned. It happened almost nightly for several months.

- Ever since then, I have frequent dreams in which I dream that I'm either specifically wetting the bed or just peeing in general. The "average" frequency of these dreams is maybe once a week - sometimes it's several nights in a row and then several weeks in between, but I don't think its every been more than a month in between at most. Most of the time it's ONLY a dream - I'll wake up absolutely convinced that I've wet the bed but really haven't. But every once in a while - maybe once or twice a year - I actually do wet the bed.

I have been all y life. But there was 6 months straight that I was dry. Then a week ago it stated back up again and I have been wet every night so far.

Unfortunately, I have never been reliably dry and have never been dry for 6 months to be considered a secondary enuretic. As a matter of fact, except for maybe my early 20's - I've never been dry for 6 nights. If I only have one accident a night; I consider it a very good night :(

I was a cronic bedwetter till puberty about age 13, then it slowed a bit maybe 1-2 times a week. At age 17 my wetting got worse again, probably due to drinking and bad sleeping habits!!!

I'm 40 now and wet about 3-4 times a week, never been dry except for a short period when I was on medication (Minirin). I got bad side effects from them. I don't think I will ever be dry.

I am 22yrs old Man, My problem is I am still wetting my bed. I have tried lot of things but result is negative, and now some of my friend said me that Taking a Dill Seeds of 1tea spoon boil in 1glass of water and then keep it for 45 minutes and then drink everything the extract in one gap. Taking this for continues 30 days it will stop bed wetting at night so please help me out like is this method is right or else pls suggest me any of the home remedy to stop my bed wetting problem and also getting up to urine pass for 2hours after going to sleep will be helpful? please get me the solution to my mail id chethan1662@gmail.com.

please can u help me out I am facing this problem too from my birth and now i am 22 so please any suggestion to me...Please send your suggestion to chethan1662@gmail.com

have wet the bed ever since I was 2 and never stopped. Everynight i wet a coupel times per night and every day 24/7. Sometimes the amount has been less due to not drinking any water, no sleep/sleep disturbances, and developing kidney issues. I have had workups at every single hospital in the cities I lived and in the Health Sciences Center. All my doctors say iu am an "enigma" but I am learning to live with it, esp. inside relationships.

i still wet now at 27 and accept never being dry. I can't ever giving up diapers as they make me feel secure and comfortable. This is due also wetting during the day. so I have built up a level of comfortableness with them.

Chethan1662,

I don't think drinking the dill seed extract will hurt you in any way (it is a harmless culinary herb, after all), so go ahead and try it if you want -- but I wouldn't put too much hope that it will stop you from wetting the bed. Unfortunately there is really no "magic bullet" cure that will make the problem go away. If there were I think all of us would use it! Probably the best treatments for bedwetting out there would be a combination of bedwetting alarms (a special sensor that wakes you up as soon as you start urinating at night) and bladder muscle exercises to strengthen the bladder -- but even these do not work for anyone by any means.

If you can find a physician who is experienced in treating bed-wetting in adults, that would be a good first step to get a better understanding of what kind of problem you are dealing with. Otherwise, start by doing a Google search for "bedwetting alarms" and "bladder exercises" and see what you can find there -- and if you have any questions on what you find, let us know. :) It's not an easy problem to deal with, but depending on the underlying cause of your problem you might at least be able to reduce your symptoms a little bit, if not make them go away completely. Good luck to you!

All my life. Never more than a couple of dry nights in a row . Growing up almost every night and it was a miserable problem to have. Drs. were of no help so parent put me back in night diapers when I was in the first grade. There certainly was lots of crying those first couple nights. I continued wetting up though Jr. high school when parents did take me out of diapers in the 8th grade due to, I guess puberty coming on. I wet more nights than not throught high school . The only way I made it through college was the medication tofranil. It worked fairly well but had side effects. In college I got dismissed from ROTC when they found out I wet the bed. I did manage to get married, even with this problem. Divorced now. It always was an issue in the marraige but not really the main cause of the split. Seh alwsy comparedme to the kdis. Two kids. age 9 and 4. The 9 year odl has been ngiht trained since abou the age of 3. The 4 year old is about dry at night and giving up his pull-ups.

The Dr. says my diagnosis is primary nocutrnal enuresis. I take ddavp. it works some, e.g. it helps me have dry nights about half the time.

I am 19 years old now and it started when i was 15. It started because of a car accident I was in. I suffered from spinal cord injury and the nerves going to my bladder were damaged, making it go all crazy and what not.

...and it happens every single night. hahaha