Wives of Alcoholics Community Group
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I'm really stuck. My husband left our family home on 1 Sept - finally. I finally got the strenght together to stick to my resolve and not sucomb to the threats and begging, the tireless manipulation.
A week and a half later he was arrested for driving drunk and his father took him to rehab.
Now he still pesters me through his councellor. She keeps phoning me and telling me he just want's to know how we are doing. But I know he is really checking up on me. I visited my mom this weekend and he hates it when I go there because they have urged me to get rid of him for years.
Now I have to decide whether or not to get a divorce while he is in there. Because I tried once before and he got so violent and scared the hell out of me so I stopped everything. I don't believe he will see the 3 months in rehab through. I think he is only there because when he refused to go with his father, I told his father his son can expect divorce papers. So now I believe he is just sticking it out to wait until I calm down. I am still very angry and I don't think I'll ever trust him. I've done everything I could and still I remain the bad guy expecially with his father. Should I just get a divorce and put all this behind me or do I wait and risk him getting out and harrassing me again?
A week and a half later he was arrested for driving drunk and his father took him to rehab.
Now he still pesters me through his councellor. She keeps phoning me and telling me he just want's to know how we are doing. But I know he is really checking up on me. I visited my mom this weekend and he hates it when I go there because they have urged me to get rid of him for years.
Now I have to decide whether or not to get a divorce while he is in there. Because I tried once before and he got so violent and scared the hell out of me so I stopped everything. I don't believe he will see the 3 months in rehab through. I think he is only there because when he refused to go with his father, I told his father his son can expect divorce papers. So now I believe he is just sticking it out to wait until I calm down. I am still very angry and I don't think I'll ever trust him. I've done everything I could and still I remain the bad guy expecially with his father. Should I just get a divorce and put all this behind me or do I wait and risk him getting out and harrassing me again?
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
Ive been immersed in the Empowered Recovery book and there is one line that I cant get out of my head:
"You can either take care of the problem now, or suffer longer and still take care of the problem. Either way you will take care of the problem eventually or die from the pain"
There is no excuse for any abuse. You deserve better and you know that, otherwise you wouldnt be on this forum. Please find the courage to do what you think is right. It may be scary to be an empowered woman (as mezzorella said), but would you rather be a little afraid of the uncertainty of being an empowered worman or afraid of the man who is coming home to you?