Widows & Widowers Support Group
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It's been a year and a half since my lil' Bear passed and in many ways I have moved forward. I have my new job, some new friends and joy in my life again.
But, you never know what is going to trigger a memory! My sone in the military is here visiting for the weekend and got up fairly early this morning (Sunday). He aksed if we could make biscuits and gravy and I said sure. I rarely make a big breakfast anymore so it was a good excuse, and really it is pretty easy. So Will is making the sausage and I am making biscuits, I made the dough and dumped it out on to a cutting board. I always took my wedding ring off so the dough would not get stuck in the engraving and I as I put my hand to my finger where my ring used to be it hit me like an truck. I just stood there looking out the window with tears streaming down my face, I could remember vividly Diana standing there in the kitchen getting ready to scramble some eggs once I popped the biscuits into the oven. Will came over and hugged me and just said rough morning?. Feeling better now but I was really shocked by the intensity of the memory.
-Pete-
But, you never know what is going to trigger a memory! My sone in the military is here visiting for the weekend and got up fairly early this morning (Sunday). He aksed if we could make biscuits and gravy and I said sure. I rarely make a big breakfast anymore so it was a good excuse, and really it is pretty easy. So Will is making the sausage and I am making biscuits, I made the dough and dumped it out on to a cutting board. I always took my wedding ring off so the dough would not get stuck in the engraving and I as I put my hand to my finger where my ring used to be it hit me like an truck. I just stood there looking out the window with tears streaming down my face, I could remember vividly Diana standing there in the kitchen getting ready to scramble some eggs once I popped the biscuits into the oven. Will came over and hugged me and just said rough morning?. Feeling better now but I was really shocked by the intensity of the memory.
-Pete-
Doye
Peace Bob
We become accustom to our new life until the hammer of memories hit! We are reminded of what it was like; that old feeling of time past sinks deep into our hearts, and life pauses for a moment to remember the lovethat wonderful love we shared! Thank goodness! Blessings to you, Pete. I hope the biscuits were yummy and you and your son enjoyed the morning breakfast. TJ
Sending you Big Hugs.....Martha
I am so sorry about your wife. It is true smells, actions, routines, music, can all trigger a memory and then the realization that it is gone for us. It is very hard. Sending you hugs and prayers.
Shar
All we can do during what I love what Mrs. Jr's calls them "landmimes" rather than triggers is ask the Lord to sustain us. Because we know we have to face these moments we can't hide from every memory and event... Much love to you all....Lisa
I has been almost 10 months for me, and there is not a day that goes by, that I don't have a remembrance of Greg. I can just be looking at the kitchen door, and picture him.
When I cook dinner, especially something I know he loved, it is both with a smile and a tear.
I think these triggers will happen perhaps for the rest of our lives. I am so sorry it gave you pain again. I'm glad that your son was there for you, and you didn't have to go that alone.
BTW Biscuits and gravy does it for ME too.
HUGS Diane