I feel the same way so I am hoping you get some good responses.
I look around at all we have done and the trips we took and just dont know how I am going to do this.

I, too, have wondered about this. Sam and I met later in life, but were together for 12 years. I'm 63, and the thought that I might live more years without Sam than I did with him is just so painful to contemplate. I continue to take it one day at a time, and I hope the joyful memories will outweigh the pain.

Wishing you peace . . .

I have same feeling after losing my wife of 27 years--how can I go on like this? What will I do? What is the point of life without her? Just want to let you know that you are not alone. We are all here to help each other. We will get through this, one day at a time. Hugs

My husband passed only 10 days ago, but we knew it was going to happen for the past month or so...I have had these feelings a lot. I'll be 45 in a few days, and can't imagine spending up to 40 years or so (if I live that long) without him. Everything reminds me of him. He was only 3 months away from his 60th birthday, and we should have had at least another 15 years or so together...I am still very much in love with him,and can't imagine starting again with someone else. It's a bleak outlook for sure, life without him..it's still very surreal for me right now.

I lost Ed suddenly 5 days after he turned 45. That was 15 months ago. I have good days and bad, the one thing I have come to understand that has helped me is that nothing will be like it was before I lost him. Everything is different. I am different, the kids are different, our lives are different. I am thankful every day for every single moment we had with him. Even when he was driving me crazy. The love I feel for him will never change. I will always miss his smile, his laugh and his touch. Knowing him and loving him brought so much to my life, I know I'm a better person because of what he has given me in the 16 years we were together. I look at our house and remember the hard work he put in to make our house, our home and it gives me comfort.

I don't know if any of this will help. When I was reading your post it made me think of all the changes in my life since the day I lost him. I still cry, still feel it cannot be happening to us, but it did. I hope every day that he is proud of the person I've become and know when it's my time, he will be there waiting.

Take care of you, that's the best thing you can do to honor your loved one's memory.

Reading each post I think, I could have written that. I have survived 2 months without Ray. Spring is here and I am out mending fences, stacking firewood, have tried to chop some for smaller pieces to start a fire, hear the boats on the lake knowing none are his boat, look at his boat garge knowing I will never see him pull his boat out to go fishing. My life and here is so much the same and I can stand and look at something and see him there. This home we built 20 yrs ago gives me so much piece yet so much sorrow. Everything in this home we picked out together..How can I/we go on with such heavy hearts. Getting up each morning is so hard. I miss you Ray and pray that today is the day i join you. There is nothing here for me except to get through each day. Love and miss you!

Dearest Mrs TX . . . life goes on and ever-so-slowly your life will evolve into a new life. I know it may seem impossible in this moment. That's why we take it a day at a time without over thinking the future too much. The future will take care of itself. Meanwhile, you must take care of you. You are left with beautiful memories of your husband and all that he created surrounds you. His spirit thrives and is with you. Take comfort in your homestead and surroundings. You are beyond blessed, remember that. Hugs to you . . you will endure! xo, Dayna

I try really hard not to think too much into the future. I could live another 40 years without my husband as I am 45. I am viewing is as the 2nd half of my life. I have 8 years before my last child goes off to college. Hoping I will be in a better place by then. Right now focusing on raising my girls, going out with friends and family and doing things I enjoy. In addition to learning to do all the things my husband always took care of.

Unless I die in the next 2 1/2 years, I will get to a place where I am without her longer than I was with her.

It breaks my heart, too... We had so little time.

TX, you took the words right out of my mouth. I still cannot wrap my head around the fact that he is gone from my life. I sit here and cry all day....if I can just make it until 8 at night and go to bed and try to sleep thru the pain.
All I can see are years alone and sadness. His birthday was yesterday and it was simply awful. I am not an extrovert and tend to stay to myself. The group I go to only meets twice a month and there is nothing else around for 30-40 miles which I cannot do.
The pain is just so deep and unrelenting, I feel as though I am being swallowed up in it.
I feel like I just have one pity party after another, but this pain is REAL.....I just can't see my way thru it, I really can't. I am sorry to sound like a broken record.

At first the future seems impossible. And then day by day you live it. You start realizing how much you can do on your own and you start taking some pride in that. Eventually the dreams morph into different dreams, the plans change and while you cherish your past you no longer dread your future. You just live it.
Hugs,
Val

I was 34 when my wife died. We were together for almost 16 years, married almost 6. It was pretty obvious I would be without her longer than I was with her. I know she would have wanted our daugther (then 3, now 5) and me to continue living life and that's what we been trying to do for almost 2 years now.

We're all broken records, in this group.

That's what it is for... The broken.

Like Val says, you do just live it. It took me a while to even realize I was going to survive. Once I crossed that hurdle I fumbled along with plans that worked out and some that didn't in order to arrange my life. I now find myself living without thinking much about it. I think to cope you need to remember our one day at a time mantra and let the days slide by. One day you'll look back and as much as you couldn't have recognized today then, you'll be hard pressed to recognize then. In all things, healing takes time.

Been a year for me and I still have to make a point of not thinking too much of the future. Very hard to do. Try really hard to take one day at a time.