Eddie, I feel for you. I dont know which way is easier, knowing or not knowing. I think that at least you will have the chance that i didnt. you will be able to say goodbye and let her know how much you lover her. I truly beleive this will be one of the best things you can do for her and for yourself.

Good Luck Eddie, try to stay strong - but just know its ok to lose it man... I cant tell you how many times I have just lost it at random times.

Hi Eddie. I am so very sorry. Use this time to just hang onto her for whatever time you two have left. When the very last comes, things get crazy and your attention to what you need to say while she is still with you can get diverted by making sure everyone else has their chance to speak their words to her. So speak your heart to her now. She will hear you even if she's not conscious. And Eddie, just hold her and let the love you have for each other flow through the two of you. All of us are here to help you in anyway we can, and that is primarily just by being out here for you when you need us. God, what I'd give to just kiss my wife just one more time and tell her how much I love her. Don't give thought to anything else. Just be with her. ~~~ Scottie

I feel for you. My husband passed away 3 weeks ago. He had been in ill health, and declining for a very extended period. He was hospitalized and actively dying for about 5 weeks. As hard as it is to go through this, there will be a time that you will treasure these last days you had together.

Eddie I lost my wife just a few weeks ago,. We had a week knowing she would not live without the respirator. She was completely coherent up until we decided not to fight the enevitable. She helped plan everything. Sure enjoyed and hated it both. She is in a much better place and can breathe free again

Hi Eddie,
It's such a difficult time for you. I was in your place 2 short weeks ago. Just like everyone else said, treasure these days, as painful as they are. Tell her everything that you want her to hear. I did and I know he heard me. Your emotions will be all over, and then all over again. We re here for one another, and it helps somewhat to write nod share our story. Thinking of you. Peace.

Oh Eddie, my heart goes out to you. It has been six months since my beloved husband died. You will be forever changed by this experience. The pain doesn't go away, but we learn to live with it. Cherish every moment with her so you have no regrets. I'm glad you found this group now, because we don't just imagine, we know what you're going through and we care.

All of your comments are so helpful. I very much appreciate them, and pray for you all to find your individual peace.

My wife is resting comfortably and finally asleep after a hectic day. I absolutely know she can still hear me and I have been sharing stories and laughs with her all day.

She would be stunned to know I straightened up the house last night without a little nudge from her....lol

The journey continues....thanks again for listening all!

Live today, do what you can with your wife @ the moment, moments count
You will treasure these times, remembrances to be held onto
Experiences the two of you shared, brought back to life in talk
Praying
jdp

Hey Eddie. I know what your going through. Lost my wife 4months ago to ovarian cancer. She was is hospice for 16 days. It sucked every morning getting there and sitting all day wondering if this is the day she goes. Each day will be something new for you. My advice is don't fight it, just let it happen. If you wanna stay in bed all day do it. So sorry loss. Stay strong.

Hi Eddie. I am sorry you are going through this. Just be with her..................that's all you can do. Talk to her even if she is unconscious..................she can probably hear you. I spent my husband's last days playing music for him and often I was curled up in the hospital bed with him (we had a hospital bed in the living room of our home). I got very little sleep because I wanted to spend time with him. The lack of sleep wasn't the smartest thing I ever did, but I don't regret any of it.

Sylvia

I am so sorry about your wife. Even those of us who have been through the death of many loved ones will admit that we have no sagacity to offer. I know you don’t want your wife’s suffering to be extended. Use this time to connect to the Lord. We all return to dust, but those who have the forgiveness of sins offered by God through His Son,Jesus’ death, have a new life in a new body that we count on just as if it were right now. We are already seated in the Heavenlies. So, I pray that the Lord’s prescence will be evident as your wife passes, and that He will comfort, you,too. You may be surprised that a sense of relief engulfs you since you will be assured that she is no longer suffering and is with the Lord. You have been through a horrible battle so also be aware that a sense of exhaustion will overwhelm you when the ceremonies and comforters are gone. Praying for you right now. Sushi

Thank you again for all your beautiful words. Today was a rough day. She is now without fluids for 26 hours and her little body is fighting like crazy. The one thing I did that was mentioned above was play some music for her. She loved Mozart and having her hear it I am sure comforted her some.

The end is very near and is in the lords hands, and for that I celebrate and smile. I know that she will be with me forever, and that is putting more at ease each day, even if it is through a lot of tears.

I find myself reading here quite often now, and I look forward to hearing more from all of you not only hear, but in other threads as well.

Oh, yes, the music. I played Handel’s Messiah for my Mom for a whole week with interludes of other classics that I am thankful that the Lord has given us. Are you all by yourself??? I am so glad that you found this and other helpful sites where your words can just roll out to an unjudging and sympathetic group. I am thankful that she is not suffering. Your grief will not be packaged in the neat stages outlined by the experts. I still find myself on the spectrum, sometimes going backwards, for the ones I have lost.

Eddie, I remember those days as if they were yesterday even though they were 7 months ago. If I may offer my suggestions, spend as much time as you can, and if your wife has the strength as her to call your phone and leave you voicemails as you will most likely look for those in the future. Just love her, cradle her (if you are able), whisper to her, and let her know how much you love her. Jim

Seeing her like this is so heartbreaking. I try to spend as much time as I physically can handle. Sometimes, I just have to walk out of the room. Today, as we enter hour number 51 without fluids, I found myself walking out of the room more and more. It hurts so bad to see her like this....I am doing the best I can. Boy, this is really not fair.

Did you all have similar experiences at this point?