My heart goes out to you, I am so sorry for your loss. Take it moment to moment. Cry, scream, do what you need to to get through that moment. There is no right or wrong way. There is just getting through it. Keep coming back here. It does help. I am sorry you are going through this. My prayers go out to you.

You are in shock right now, whether you realize it or not. Strange thing about grief is that we have some kind of delayed reaction to the real pain. I think it is a type of built-in safety mechanism because the worst thing that could have happened to any of us in life, well, it happened. But you've got to go through to get through it. Remember to take good care of yourself by eating, lots of water (tears dehydrate us) and get your sleep. Grieving is without a doubt the hardest work any of us have ever done. Everything changes. I received good advice from a friend about grandkids -- don't be afraid to let them see grandpa cry. And I talked with each one and did my best to answer all their questions. Children grieve too, and so all of you have to get through this. Thank God you have them and they have you. Comfort and blessings to you and your family in this your time of need. ~~~ Scottie

Hello! I am so sorry you have to be here. It is a difficult road, but the people here will comfort you and empathize with you as we are all going through it. Take care. Hugs! Betty

You have all been wonderful. It's nice to have encouragement from people who know how I'm feeling. It's a lonely place to be.

I am so sorry. My husband died on September 29, 2016. The first weeks I was crying constantly, in shock and full of adrenaline. He died suddenly in a car crash. All I can suggest is to take care of yourself--rest as much as you can and surround yourself with people who love you, take long walks or whatever might bring you some comfort.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife to cancer after a 3 1/2 yr battle. I found that its hard enough going thru a cancer battle with your spouse and then you have to deal with the grief of them dying. I also find it hard to deal with the empty spots in my life since my wife passed away. My wifes friend just lost her husband and she posted this "People keep telling me that life goes on, but, to me, that's the saddest part." Keep friends and family close to you they will be your source of strength.

People always say time will heal. Not exactly what anyone wants to hear after losing a spouse.

Vharris32 my heart goes out to you. My aunt told me to let the grief roll through me as it will. And it will. It is so hard. It's been six months since I lost my love and I seem to swing in and out of all the "stages" the first few months I couldn't stop crying and felt numb at the same time. Every chore that he used to do that I was now doing brought me to tears. Everywhere he sat his side of the bed his pillows kept smelling his stuff hoping I would never forget anything. I have had moments of happy smiles remembering him and true gratitude for the short 7 years we had together but just when I think I'm doing a little better I'm back to tears and pain. Hang in there you will have some moments of true joy again. Big hugs to you.

""How do people do this?""
Good question. I have no idea. Never done it before myself.
Never went out to eat alone before really, never went to a movie alone, or even so much as gone grocery shopping alone without my spouse, a kid, or a friend in tow. I have no choice. And I thimk that is all it is. We have no choice. We are still here. Pets and/or kids still need to be fed, we still need to eat ourselves at least occasionally, bills keep coming in and have to be psid if you aren't going to sit in the dark or cook in the heat, kids gotta go to school. Lunches have to be made, clothes have to be washed, shoes have to be found, homework has to be checked. Somebody has to try to keep it together and keep things moving. And if you are the designated adult, guess what, you are elected. It's so hard sometimes, though. I burst into tears at church at a song DH and I used to do together for another church when we were young. I didn't know they were planning on doing it because it was my first time there. Bawled through the whole music portion and half of the sermon. I cried at Dennys the first time I went and sat alone in our "regular booth". I cry at commercials and at songs on the radio and at things people say in jest or without thinking or at nice things that happen....... I cry when the cat makes herself comfortable in DH's chair because I know DH isn't going to come chase her out of it. ""How do people do this?""

Well, I guess.....
You cry, and you do it anyway. Because you have to.

Quite true, Dott. Ellebelle I knew my husband for almost 7 years. What happened to yours and what's your age approx.? I'm early 50's.