Pretty damn long. When was your loss?

Not even a year ago. I was dumb to join a dating site. I know I am not ready to date. A person to talk to would be nice though.

Yes it is nice to have someone to talk to who travels the same path you do. Good luck in your quest.
So sorry for your loss.
Hugs, Sandi

Thank you Sandi. *hugs*

I also realize that the grieving process will take a while. It was more of a "are we there yet?!" type question. Wondering if I will ever feel like I relate to someone again.

We are the same age. Don't try to meet a man on line. You have a child and you do not know what kind of men are out there. Go to school, work, find a church. There are much safer places to meet someone. Don't rush into things. At your stage of grief, you need to learn skills to know what you really want from life and what is best for your child. Slow down, Girl.

Maggie

I understand what you say about having someone to talk to. I'm at the point where I think about that as well...not ready for any type of romantic situation...it would be a rare person who could even hold a candle to my late husband! It would be nice to meet for a drink or go to a show. I'm not sure about trying to find someone on-line...I'm really apprehensive about that.

Thanks Maggie. I'm more looking for a friend and I am pretty open about that online. I've lived in Maine for 10 years and I have no friends. Most of the time, I don't bother. It's the weekends where I don't have my son that are the worst. (i.e.--when I decide a "dating website" would be a good place to meet a friend. duh.) Also, I met my fiance from a dating website and he was wonderful. I appreciate your support.

Thank you for your response Myne...I agree.

Kate

The perfect person will come alone to make you feel like you are home again. It will happen when you least expect it.

Kymberly

Each person's grief journey is different, as we are individuals. Grief is actually a life long process, but the longer you have been on your own the easier it is to accept and carry with you.

Please don't use dating websites to meet a man because you are lonely. Spend this time discovering you and what you like and want. You have to love yourself first before you'll be able to love anyone else.

Speaking personally for me, I am not interested in having another person in my life. I had the person I wanted to spend my entire life with, and cancer took him away. Life is OK now. I draw a lot of peace in knowing that we will be rejoined again some day.

I too thought about that because I was so lonely. But I decided it was time to get to know myself and take care of myself as I had never had to before. I got a job and found an adequate place to live found some hobbies and I have my fur babies. I live close to my daughter and son which is good but I try to let them lead their lives and I mine and go to get togethers when invited and I feel like it. I am still lonely but feel good about handling it better now and on my own! Time does help!

Hi friend

I agree with Jerseydebbie...spend time discovering you..be gentle and kind to yourself...This roller coaster of a journey takes so much out of us...know that you have many friends on here...

Lawrence

Edinburgh Scotland

You might fare better if you went to meetup.com and found a group to get together with instead of hitting the dating sites. It doesn't sound like you are looking to date, and the meetup site has a lot of different groups. There are not a bunch in your town, but if you don't mind driving a little, there were about 100 groups within 25 miles of you. That's not too bad! Just a thought.....

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Take your time...don't rush. I met my husband online and he was a wonderful man...I miss him terribly. The timing has to be right regardless of where you meet the person....church, work, online, grocery store.

On a side note...you have to be careful regardless of where you meet the person too. For while only meet the guy in public places....unless someone who knows him too introduces you, you will not know if he is safe until some time has passed. Just my two cents.

So I lost my husband 13 months ago.. First, let me just say I have 2 friends that have met their husband online... Such a blessing! U can meet people anywhere.. of course, always be careful.. but this community is the perfect example.. we only know each other through our postings and I could not imagine being on this journey without my DS friends!!

I never thought I would wake up one morning and be ready to date, in fact, I wanted to never love or care about any guy ever again when my husband first died.. because pain is the price you pay for love.
However, last month I met a wonderful guy that I have been dating since then.. it just happened when I least expected, we are just getting to know each other, but he puts a smile on my face... I miss my husband every second and life will never be the same without him, but the reality is, as much as we can feel married in our hearts, they will never come back to this earth. So, I think they would be proud of us knowing we are doing our best to make life happen and trying to be strong. :) Do what it feels right to you!

I was walking around the mall yesterday and the loneliness hit me like a ton of bricks. I was in the mens department......I just wanted someone to talk to that would understand....no one........so I came home and cried........