Hi Tim,
I am so sorry that you also lost the love of your life. It at first is so unbearable that I was certain the world would stay dark and grey the rest of my life. Then the pain is so raw, it is like my heart was ripped out and then put back in. I had this open wound for so long.

This is a group that no one ever wants to join. It never is or will be fair that we lost them so young and our children lost a parent so young. My youngest was 21 when his Dad died 15 months ago. Still too young...but it must be even harder with them being even younger. There is just no way to make sense of this for a very very long time.

That said, you have come to the right place. You can read how others have survived the unsurvivable and how we all just keep putting one foot in front of the other. "When you're going through hell, keep on moving..."

There are so so many good people here who are figuring it all out and finding out how to survive sometimes one breath, sometimes one minute, one hour, one day at a time.

Sending you many hugs...
-Diana

I wanted to say how sorry I am for the loss of your wife and the mother of your boys. I hope this group will be as much of a blessing for you as it has been for me. Know that we are all here to help anyway we can. You are in my prayers.

Hi Tim: Welcome to the group nobody wants to join. I am sorry for your loss. I found this group to be so amazing. It helped me so much you would not believe. Basically it helped me so much in my grief journey.

I'm sorry for your and your boys' loss, but I am glad that you found this group. I hope you will find as much help here as I have. Welcome!

Hey, Tim. Welcome. I will not tell you to buck up and get on. I will not tell you things will get better. I will tel you that this is a place where you are free to express the love you had for your wife. There are many here that "have your back"
Kaaren

Hi Tim - I remember when I put my first post on I was so depressed because not only the obvious but my friends and family weren't calling or wanting to see me or sending emails. Then I wrote about it in a discussion (didn't know others would experience this too - I kind of thought what's wrong with me?) and I went on the computer the next time and I had lots of emails in my inbox - boy was that nice. (I have it set so I'm notified when someone responds.)

At my job soo many sites are blocked including my email site but for some reason not this one. Some days I was going on all the time. Figured if the workplace brought it up I could say the truth - "if you want me to continue with this hard work as if nothing is wrong - this is what I need to do". People always say it is a roller coaster - and it certainly is. Welcome.

Hi Tim, I am sorry for the loss of your wife. You have come to a good place. There are so many people here that understand, listen and care. I lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago. I really like what you said about 2 becoming 1 and when you lost her you lost part of yourself and a part of her lives on in you. That is so true what beautiful way to look at it. I do feel like a part of my husband lives on in me.
I hope you will the support you need here at DS.

Hugs. Denise

Hi Tim, so sorry for your loss. And welcome to the group. I'm glad you found this sight. It's been a Godsend for me as well as many others. We are all here for you and your in my prayers.
Julie

Sorry for your loss Tim. No one wanted to be in this club, buthim here you'll find kindred spirits, willing to offer support and understanding. This is also a site where you can freely express your feelings, emotions and even despair. We have all been there and understand this journey.

Tim,
As you can see by all the replies, this is the place for comfort and support. Glad you got here. I am so sorry you have to be here, for your loss. My sympathy, Hug, Donna

HI TIM,
I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND YOUR SON'S LOSS.
I JUST JOINED THIS SIGHT 2 DAYS AGO, AND I CAN TELL YOU THAT IT IS SO COMFORTING TO KNOW THAT THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE THERE TO GET YOU THROUGH THE MOMENT.
I WISH YOU AND YOUR SON'S SOME PEACE AND STRENGTH
JUDI

So sorry for your loss! I hope you find this site as helpful as I have!

Hi Tim - As so many others have said, I am so sorry for your loss but you have come to a wonderful place to share your thoughts and feelings with people who have been through or are now going through the same grief process that you are. It is important to be able to talk about your spouse, about your memories, about your life together - and we all here love those stories.

It is definitely a roller coaster of emotions, but we're always here to share the ride. Hugs to you,
Christine

Hello Tim,
So very sorry for your loss! This is definitely not a "club" anyone wants to join, but is a great place for all of us who have lost our spouse or partner. There are some wonderful people on here who can give great advice and always willing to "listen". Usually, if you start a discussion -- you will find several people who have experienced similar circumstances or who want to participate in the discussion. Love the part about still having a part of her with you. We all know how that feels. This journey has many ups and downs, but, you can come here and read, vent, cry, whatever you need to do. Someone will listen. Hugs, Joely

That was great insight that made me think..........if part of us dies with our spouse, then part of them lives with us..........sorry you're here ....a good place for support and being able to share whatever you are thinking.............
L