The Hen House Community Group
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I've brought this up on a mixed-sex board a long time ago..
I'm pretty comfortable with that, 'cause I think men and women share the same basic issues.
But..since there are so few men on the CP board..I don't want to make them uncomfortable.
I miss..so much..intimacy with my husband.
I still..on very rare occasions..because he doesn't like it to be one-sided..or to cause me any further pain..
Will try to give my husband some.." relief"..
But..I've not been able to have sex without more pain in over three yrs..
So..almost never do any more.
I know we're not young..but, I know healthy people our age still have fairly regular sex.
I love my husband so much. I miss being with him in that way...both physically and for the connection.
IDK the point of this. Just a whine I guess..
We talk about the other losses with CP..but, not that one.
Also..it makes me so, so sad for my husband. He's a very attractive man that women are drawn to..
But..he's a good and faithful husband...so..this is yet another thing CP has cost him.
Just rambling, I guess.
Hugs..jc
I'm pretty comfortable with that, 'cause I think men and women share the same basic issues.
But..since there are so few men on the CP board..I don't want to make them uncomfortable.
I miss..so much..intimacy with my husband.
I still..on very rare occasions..because he doesn't like it to be one-sided..or to cause me any further pain..
Will try to give my husband some.." relief"..
But..I've not been able to have sex without more pain in over three yrs..
So..almost never do any more.
I know we're not young..but, I know healthy people our age still have fairly regular sex.
I love my husband so much. I miss being with him in that way...both physically and for the connection.
IDK the point of this. Just a whine I guess..
We talk about the other losses with CP..but, not that one.
Also..it makes me so, so sad for my husband. He's a very attractive man that women are drawn to..
But..he's a good and faithful husband...so..this is yet another thing CP has cost him.
Just rambling, I guess.
Hugs..jc
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75FIt is really cooler today and this will trick us into believing it will become cooler. Our hot summer will keep on aftert this week. We will not be fooled. Sandra, one of our regrets is not being able to visit Great Britain and travel for two weeks when younger. As we age we just become slower and that really takes away from travel. Our retirement did the same thing with age 65 vs 67 also if...
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Hiya,It's cloudy with the occasional show of sunshine. It was sooo hot last night, felt like the worst night this year, which is odd because it's been incredibly hot this summer for us. Maybe I just felt it last night.Still, it's all going to change now and the weather will shift. Of course there's going to be a few more nice days left this month and next, but essentially I guess the "hot...
I think we can get comfort and a different intimacy with close friends and loved ones that don't hurt so much.....and no broken bones. You know we are all here for you.
The topic that JC brought up is a vital part of our lives with CP. I am so very glad that your relationship was one that you are able to say "I survived". Men, in general, are not those type of people.
You are worthy of affection and partnership. I understand not having that. I am so glad that you are alone though and, not still with this person. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Enigma- Viagra is for the pot smokers! Most guys who smoked a lot of pot screwed themselves up for later sex life. The healthy man does not slow down. My grandfather was in his 80s and upset because he could only do it 2 x per night. My current husband was beginning to deal with only 2 x per night but now it is zero and he is having a very hard time. He is angry a lot. But he is very angry at me being sick. We can not snuggle because it hurts too much. So sitting near each other is about it most of the time. Maybe once a quarter the stars seem to line up and we are able to enjoy each other. Better than nothing.
Both husbands and wifes miss the intimancy in a healthy relationship. But marriage is so much more than sex.The men who leave because of lack of sex will never have a deep relationship, they will never know true love. Sad, but there are a lot of shallow people in this world, both men and women.
All we can do is enjoy the moments and pray the researchers find better pain control for us.
Just my thoughts.-RJ