I'm sorry you are feeling so alone. Is it possible for you to talk to your girlfriend every day? Maybe just talking on the phone will help ease that lonely feeling. Plus, you have us here and we are always willing to listen. :-)

Hang in there. Remember, everything is temporary.

Well I mean we text and talk on the phone, and get to see each other on the weekends, but being here at college and seeing everyone hanging out with their girlfriends, and fiances and wives, its hard.

That must be hard. I commuted to college so it was a bit easier in that respect. I was also a loner when I was in classes but did make a few friends. Hang in there as best as you can and keep chatting with us here.

Well i mean there's a few people I talk to but I only get to talk to them at lunch.

are you in any clubs or some type of hobby that might help unless your schedule is hectic

No no clubs most of my time is spent in my dorm waiting for my next class

hmm well maybe you can make your own little like study group or something. I am sure we could come up with some ideas (:

talk here....we can help lift you up again. YOU ARE WORTH IT!!! Don't you forget it! I am here, if you need someone to listen and/or vent to!

those words just sound fake. I have yet to do anything truly meaningful in my life. If I had never existed then everything would remain virtually unchanged. I dont truly live my life, i just kind of sit around for the ride, waiting, not sure what for but i just havent done anything. I've never made any big decisions, everything has pretty much been decided for me. where I live, what I eat, where I go to college. i just dont actively participate in my own life. i've done nothing

SexyBeast,

Who took you by the hand and signed you up for this website? Who opens your book to study? Who has decided that you've "...done nothing?"

What do you expect or think you should have done by now--after 19 years on earth--12+ of those years just spent growing up! And, just so you know, you are still not through "growing up" since the brain is not fully matured.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health "...the part of the brain responsible for controlling impulses and planning ahead--the hallmarks of adult behavior--are among the last to mature." (They typically mature in the 20s).

The majority of the people in the world don't start contributing to society until they are much older. Why are you carrying such unrealistic expectations of yourself???

You say that you "...just kind of sit around for the ride, waiting..." And I say, do something; nothing is holding you back except you.

If you're not seeing a therapist consider it, most collages have counseling centers that are affordable.

Go do something safe right now.

SuzA

Well as for those questions, my gf introduce me to this site and had me sign up, and I don't study because I don't need to yet. I have all A's and I've never once studied. Those two examples prove my point. I have no experience making decisions on my own

Well what do you want to make a difference doing (: I mean you could do some volunteer work as little as it seems it actually helps boost that self - esteem of "I've done nothing" Ihope this helps

Actually, volunteer work is a pretty good idea. Gets you out of your dorm, gets you social, gets you a chance to do something meaningful

@ SB...what do you define as meaningful?

See, right now you're supposed to be learning how to do meaningful work.
So yeah, you haven't been meaningful yet, you're in *preparation* to be meaningful.

If you need to feel needed, I agree with the last 2 posters. Do volunteer work.
But also, determine that you're going to find a way to use your talents (whatever they are) to help other people.

Oh, another idea? get trained as a DBSA facilitator...
http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer/PageServer?pagename=education_training_facilitator

And then you can see about starting a DBSA on campus. Or do something similar-form a student support group.