Seperation and Divorce Community Group
Anyone who wants to talk about how they are feeling in regards to getting separated and those who are divorced
Hi, hope you all are doing well. My husband left 4 months ago after dinner when we had a talk about buying a house. Buying a house was not clearly his concern. He was angry , mad and upset since COVID . He could not travel, which he did for living . He was out clycling for hours. I did not see how stressed he was since he did not talk or showed me anything. I was myself affected for my work and did not pay much attention to him for 2 months before he left . I was busy and stressed too. I did not expect him to walk out of the house. He asked for space, I left him home for a day as he asked me to go my mom's. He then left to Canada where he is from and never returned. He told his dad many stupid reasons, nonsense that was not true. He blocked me right away from all social media and had not have contact until end of July ( he left June 4th) he emailed me in the most horrible way , saying he wanted divorce and that I should return the house and gather his belongings and throw it away. Im devestated and trying to figure out what happened. We did not have daily arguments or problems . We had few here and there but nothing that would justify him walking out. Since we married 6 yrs ago in canada and went to honeymoon right after, We did not go to city hall and have not legally registered. In his email, he said he checked and there is nothing to be done legally so therefore I should not contact his parents and there is nothing to do! I am terrified! I cant understand nor digest all of whats driving him to do something so harsh ! He is currently out of country and left there and have stayed there since July! He still has me blocked everywhere but has my pictures up on his social media. Should I wait and be hopeful or has he moved on ? Im still praying tgat he would come to his senses. I cant imagine there is someone else or some other woman involved, because he was not that type of a person and showed he really loved and care for me all years we were married. My husband had ADHD and I compromised in many ways before. At first I thought this was a reaction and he will realize and say Im sorry but its been 4 months now and still nothing from him ...
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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Do not let him dictate your life. It's time to get up and take actions. Call a lawyer and go for a consult.
You are entitled to things in this marriage. If it ends, you need to get your share of the money, house, cars, bank accounts, pensions, retirement accounts.... so much of this marriage is half yours. Go see your own attorney. Do not tell him... he hasn't told you anything,
Yes, that is very shocking that he could just up and leave. I am so sorry you are going through that. That is not right of him to not talk to you first or even try to work on the marriage.
But you now know what kind of person he is. And you can't make him come back. So for whatever reason he did this, you can't do anything about it, unfortunately. You need to think about YOUR life now, and what you will do with your life.
You waited, and you're right, he's not coming back. Time to take the actions toward getting your own life together, moving on, accepting it.... it will take some time.... but the sooner you get started on moving on, the better you will feel. I wish you so much good luck.