Hi, My name is "Elmo" I joined your group tonight because I have been having a really hard time with something that just happened recently. A few weeks ago, I left my fiancee' because he was very abusive (no longer physically but still emotionally and mentally) I had turned to someone who I thought was a friend. He got me out of my house with my fiancee' and gave me a temporary "safe place" to go. After he helped me (he also gave me some money) He started telling me that I "owed him" for everything that he'd done for me. He wanted to have sex with me but I told him no repeatedly. When he wouldn't give up, I stopped saying no, and just let him do what he was going to do. Basically, I gave up fighting. I cried the whole time. I was shaking. I told him he was hurting me. He did not stop. I am shaking really bad as I sit here and type this. With the support of my fiancee' (we decided to try again and we're both going to work on fixing our relationship 110%; which includes changing things that we each need to change) and my best friend, I contacted the local sheriff's office today about what had happened. I was told that since he did not physically hold me down or use a weapon on me, it was not rape. I have talked to numerous people who have each told me that it is considered rape. 2 of the people that I have spoken to are certified paralegals. I feel so dirty. Like the system has betrayed me once again (that's a story for another time)