Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
As a therapist specializing in sexual assault, I've begun working on a book to help accompany survivors through their difficult therapy process. It's sort of a "rape survivor's guide to surviving survival" (not the actual title--unless you like it).
For those of you who have worked with therapists, please offer me feedback.
What questions do you wish were better answered during rape recovery? What topics about rape recovery do you wish were better explained?
I'm trying to assess the most common questions, curiosities, fears, and unknowns that survivors face as they work through this.
Please add them here, rather than in direct messages, and thanks in advance!
For those of you who have worked with therapists, please offer me feedback.
What questions do you wish were better answered during rape recovery? What topics about rape recovery do you wish were better explained?
I'm trying to assess the most common questions, curiosities, fears, and unknowns that survivors face as they work through this.
Please add them here, rather than in direct messages, and thanks in advance!
My mouth is a mess, i cant go to a dentist...yet! but i'm working on it.
I am going to need to be hospitalised as it is that bad now.
* What makes a man want to turn sex into humiliation and torture, what makes him want to use his penis to injure?
* What makes me a target for rape? Was it something I said or did that triggered the violation?
* Why the shame? He did a horrible thing, I was the victim -- so why do I feel shame?
* I was raped at a party -- I was drunk and passed out... From what I hear that's quite usual. So please include something about drugs and rape.
* My best advice to pass on to other rape survivors is this: When I was raped, I didn't deal with it, but repressed it and forgot about it for 20 years. All the time it was there in the form of nightmares, depression, anxiety, bad self esteem... So be bold, press charges, tell the people around you and take the fight -- the sooner the better.
PS: After reading this thread, I finally know why I'm so scared of the dentist. I'd be interested to know about the triggers you teach in your training sessions with dentists.