phil,I'm very sad and sorry to hear this,but unfortunately not surprised..This happened to me,when I became to ill to work full time due to my lupus..they didn't have my back,also this was before the family medical leave act was passed..now my husband with M/S is going through similar thing..but I'm sure you know the rules when it comes to applying for SSDI,you have to get under 1,000 GROSS a month,well you know what that breaks down to. they prey on the vulnerable,be very carefulwhom you choose to say what to..I certainly hope you are better soon.and something is resolved where your work is concerned I will be praying for you,you don't deserve this

I'm so sorry. You have worked so hard for your firm. Do you have any vaction you can take. With you knowlege of the law can they make you file for disability? You need need a break From all this stress. I know your feeling pressure to put in those 11 hour days but listen to your body. I wish I could do more to help you. I in others are here for you. Write us as much as you need during this very touch time.

OMG!
I am so sorry to hear this!
Sending all good thoughts your way.
I hope you will be able to come to a reasonable resolution!

Trish

I don't really have vacation time or sick time. I have to meet my billable requirement. They can't really force me to do it but they can kick me out. One guy has 75 percent and so with his vote, I'm out. We aren't big enough to qualify for fmla.

Do you really think that partner would vote you out?

Just want to say how sorry I am to hear this. I hope it works out for you. Worry about your health first.

Been there, done that, and still trying to find a job as a result. I totally get your frustration and this is a great place to vent. Seems like the only place where people actually "get it." Best of luck to you.

So sorry to hear this is happening to you.. It's not fair really when you have so much to deal with already. My PE's have lost me my business and pretty much everything else. I am now on Disability. And no matter how low or haw bad things are. The only important thing to me in my personal life is my health. I've seen death and I don't want to go back there. I hope things pick up really soon for you. Stress is not good for healing so easy said than done I know, but try and relax a bit.. Don't let them get to you.... Take care,
Kerry xoxo

Ok, deep breath.
Emotions run high when you're stressed and you're trying to recover, so recognize that and do whatever it takes to stop crying. Because you need to summon up your most professional, businesswoman, super-woman personna to deal with these dough-heads.

And they are being dough-heads, I believe, more than they are being evil. They simply do not understand the scope of what you're dealing with, and you need to have this conversation with them, without bursting into tears.

Go in there and tell 'em how it's going to be. Excuse yourself for your outburst, but they caught you off-guard at an emotional time. , You are going to work limited hours to start until you are back up to full speed, as per your agreement. You do not view this as "a bad example" but rather a show of your dedication and comittment to the firm. You have every intention of making a full recovery and every intention of meeting and exceeding billable hour quota's in the future. Then lay out some ideas or things you're working on or whatever goals you have for your job there - something to end the discussion on a positive note.

My guess is they don't get that a PE isn't cause to get on disability, because you are not "disabled" you are temporarily slowed down a bit. They need to get the Temporarily part.

If they really ARE being evil, and using your PE as an excuse to let you go for other reasons, you need to fish that out. Be armed with a note from your doctor, that this event is not going to render you useless, so they can't go down that road.

Take back some control of the situation - you are more powerful than you think!

I am certain b/c I worked too much, plus the added stress, I am having horrible chest pain today, and SOB. One step forward, 2 steps back.

I have to agree with Laura on this a 100%

The emotions are so high right now, particularly for you, and then there's the guilt some of us feel for not being at work or feel fearful of not being at work full time, and I think that can affect how we perceive people's intentions. So, take a deep breath, pull yourself together so you do not appear weak or unstable to your co workers, and outline your plans. If you feel good enough to work, that's a wonderful thing. Is there a way that you could work from home? I know for me, I came up with a plan for my work schedule while I was in the hospital actually, that I presented to my manager , outlining how long I expected to be out, that I'd like to work from home for a few days, etc. She was fine with it. I think doing that showed her, hey I'm able to work, and this is how I plan on doing it. I know not everyone has that luxury but I do sense that most employers just want to be informed on what's going on, and how long you'll be out.

Nothing you did in the past, how hard you worked, how many years you worked, how little vacation you took , matters. That's a hard one to swallow, but we can't use that as an argument for justifying needing time off or for justifying why you need support. It's not relevant. What is relevant is that you had a major health crisis and here's how you plan on balancing it with work. Please try to take the emotions out of it. It's hard, but from my experience, that rarely improves a situation.

You have more control than you think, and you can only control you, how you respond, how you react etc.

Deep breaths. Be strong.

I hope work went better today! Did you have a chance to work things out with your partners today? I realize you have to meet clients at the office and attend court hearings but I hope you can do the other stuff from home

Actually last night, I called one of the female partners who has more ownership interest than me. We don't work too much together, but she has been supported through all of this. I informed her of what was said, and she said that the statements were not the sediments of the partnership, and that she was going to confront the one who said that. I told her not to yet. I wanted to look into my oprtions first. he is leaving for a 2 week vacation saturday, so that gives me 2 weeks to do what I want, and not have to worry about it. If I have to address the issue, I will.

I did find out that as a partner, I don't qualify for short term disability. I do have long term disability, but I have to be out sick for 90 days before that kicks. So, I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I won't be out for 90 days. What he said makes no sense whatsoever. I did react emotionally b/c it took me so off guard. To my face, I have been told they are behind me, take as much times as I need, plan on working part time all summer, and then to say that...it was HIGHLY offensive to me.

But, I am better today. I have worked over 7 hours today, still here. While I have chest pain and SOB, I am not as tired.

Thanks for listening to me vent. This whole process if frustrating. And its good to know, that at least 2 of the 4 partners stand behind me -- 2 that don't have much say, but the support is still good.

I work in the Legal department of an insurance company where a lot of my coworkers were former attorneys and paralegals at law firms, so I have an idea from their experiences what a cut throat and intense environment that can be.

So, I'm glad to hear you are feeling better about things. The fatigue from going back to work sort of wears you down mentally and physically so to have this kind of worry in the forefront of your mind is really a lot to bear.

Well today was a good day. The jerk is going on vaction for two weeks and it sounds like the you have a partner that has your back. I'm glad your engery level is holding up. You go girl! When you go home you need to have a beer or glass of wine and just chill out!