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sadalonehurt154 09/08/2017

hi everyone. I wanted to let everyone know what's been happening recently. I just got the ability to be on here. I talked to my school counselor. I am staying in a foster home at the moment. There was no evidence that my siblings were in danger so they couldn't come with me. At this point I am waiting for things to move forward I guess. I don't really know what the next steps are. They had to do a lot things to get evidence, and that was terrible. The foster people here are nice enough the lady gets mad that I haven't been able to sleep without a "night terror" (that's what my therapist called them). At this moment they can't do anything more than investigate the other guys who were doing things. And to make it worse my mom won't talk to me. She said I was lying about it all and things would be better if I left for good. That was really hard to take, I mean she's my mom she's supposed to love me no matter what, but she chose him. I should have seen it coming. I guess all in all I am happy to be away from him though.

donnawanda 09/08/2017

I am very happy you are away. It took a lot of courage to do what you had to. Tragically, a lot of moms will choose a man over their own kids. Thank you for the update. As one of our members says, stay brave.

sadalonehurt154 09/08/2017

Thank you, I'm trying. I really just thought maybe she would at least care I was getting hurt, but no of course not

mujicaptsd 09/09/2017

Hey, s, my mom did me like that, too. So it's about them, not us. It's too bad they're missing the opportunity to for parent child love, because that only comes around once whereas nowadays you can date again at just about any age. There are dating sites for all ages now. Oh well, not everybody makes smart choices, not even moms, huh?

My mom and I haven't talked for 7 years now. It was hard at first, but eventually being mama-drama-free has actually been good for me, believe it or not. My life has gone steadily forward slowly but surely without the setbacks I always had from time to time from my mom's problems.

I hope those "night terrors" get better for you. I had those and, like I've told folks here, a prescription for Prazosin at night helped that big time. Not many side effects, and cheap, too. See if you can mention it to your therapist.
http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/prazosin-for-ptsd

arfie 09/09/2017

Thanks for the update, Sada. Good to know you are holding your own through the storm.

extraterrestrialone 09/09/2017

i am very happy that you are in a safer place now. there must be some tough work ahead. keep the courage you had to get you to that safe place. i'm sure you can. I wish your siblings could be with you. and keep in mind, if you were suffering from abuse, it could very well be you mom was in trouble too. sometimes it is very difficult to get away. don't hate her. she may yet come around. but realize that each participant has their own troubles and some have a harder time of it than others in trying to break away and heal. wishing you the best.

LillyPotter 09/09/2017

i am proud of you for leaving - for choosing to rescue yourself out of there, out of hell. you didn't deserve anyof it, none of it was your fault. i know it is difficult. i am sending hugs to you from here and hoping that somehow you might feel them. it is good you have a therapist, i am so grateful that you have that.

often, people who were involved, like your mom, cannot stand to face the guilt they would have to feel, they have spent all those years hiding from it maybe/probably.

it is impossible to know from where i am sitting. but this does happen. try to concentrate on you, on helping yourself get a life you can live that is ok enough for you. keep the therapy up, it will help you a lot. we are here, come here, talk to us, we care about you.

you did a strong thing in stepping away from there. gentle hugs. Lilly

lilmissy7 09/09/2017

Thank you for checking in with us & letting us know how you're doing. You are so strong & brave.
Sending you lots of support & big hugs <3

SunCloudJD 09/09/2017

Gentle hug for you Sadal... I agree that you have a lot of courage.... I'm so sorry you've been so badly hurt.....xo

sadalonehurt154 09/10/2017

Thank everyone for being here for me. Things are starting to look up for me. My therapist says that this site is good for me and I should try to use it more. She also says that I need to try to make friends and build a support system. There are some other kids in this house my age and that's cool. I'm just waiting for more information on what is going to happen. I hate not knowing what is coming. Just letting other people decide what happens in my life. I can't stand it!

arfie 09/10/2017

At 63, I still hate not knowing what is coming and *just* letting other people know what's going on in my life. I might be nearly ready to accept that Life really is beyond my control. All I get to control is how I respond to the facts of life as they present.

Building my support system made a huge diff in my own recovery. Being active here is definitely a good first step that direction. Cyber-relations can only go so far in real world support, but ya gotta start somewhere.

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