I'm trying to drop this therapist but the place that I get my meds through said I have to have a therapist to do med management. Horse shit! I have a great therapist outside of that office so why do I need two???

This was a bitter bridge to cross in my own, personal therapy. Now I believe it is not a question of fault. It is a question of healing. Winning in court is a different process than healing. In my city, courthouses and hospitals are seldom even in the same districts, much less buildings.

But that is me. . . It's okay if it doesn't make sense to you.

None of this is your fault, Precious. Hope healing happens here.

Gentle hugs.

I told him that I resented the fact that they left me alive to pick up the pieces of a shattered world and he said "There you go, blaming others instead taking responsibility for your own world being torn apart." WTF does he mean by that???? Is he seriously blaming me?

I can't know what your therapist is thinking, but in my own strictly personals. . .

Knowing who is guilty of the crimes which tore my world apart did not help to heal or rebuild my world. Not even in the cases where a judge's gavel agreed with me. What does blame have to do with the healing and rebuilding part? I am certainly not going to trust my perpetrators with that job. Proof unavailable, but I do believe that healing is an inside job. If I can't do it, nobody can.

Again, just my just-a-patient opine. . .

Continued support while you sort your own, Presh.

I just don't get it sometimes with these therapist. You walk into there office and shake their hand and they say! why are you seeing me today? After you have gone through all requirements to see this therapist they should know why im there and sit in the second waiting room like in in some doctor's office and have a therapist tell me to get over it . That is unprofessional and should fall under malpractice. I have been through several therapist and mostly male of which i refused until i found a therapist that was a female that i have grown to trust over the years. She listens she let's me talk if i want to. All these others are just draining the pocket book for there benefit. Never pay a therapist that did nothing for you. Sorry for the rant but from my experience of therapist it does make me mad and im not a person that get angry. But it is wrong.

Scott

Therapists are humans. And sometimes they are morons. Therapists can give you ideas and sometimes those ideas fit and sometimes they don't.

I might have a sit down with that therapist and say, "I'll make a deal with you. I will not take the blame for all the crap that happened to me growing up. However, I will take responsibility for what I do from today going forward."

I still get pissed about what happened. And when I have physical problems and the doctor asks what happened, I can say "That's from whiplash because I was shaken as a baby." Not my fault. And I can be angry about it. But it's my neck. So I need to take responsibility for what to do to take care of myself. No one else is going to do that. And I can be pissed that I need to spend so much time cleaning up the mess they left of my mind and body. But I still need to clean it up.

There is SOOO much power in saying, "I couldn't stop you then but I get to decide what I'm going to do about it now" and do the hard work of healing. I felt stronger and more capable (but no less angry).

I'm responsible for my own healing but I'm not responsible for what happened to me. I have an awesome therapist who is a trauma therapist and she's helping identify the areas that I need to work on and the areas that I just simply need to let go of. So far we've taken care of one major trauma in my life but we have several more to go. Why then am I seeing this guy who thinks it's my fault? Because my sister was stealing my pain meds and my therapist and I thought that if I got another therapist through the same place that I get my meds that I could also go to the groups there and get some added support. Well that backfired! Now I'm stuck trying to get rid of a therapist that is doing more damage than good. This guy isn't even in the same galaxy as I am he's so off course. His job is to listen and to guide not to criticize and blame. Oh, I'm not depressed anymore, now I'm just pissed.

warm hugs and support. This is not your fault and it's a terrible thing for anyone to go though. You have every right to be mad. He sounds like an insensitive therapist. There must be a way to work with a better person and still get Meds. The therapists role is first and foremost to support you on your path to healing. I'm sending you strength!

That wasn't your fault at all. I agree you should find a new therapist. Sorry you're depressed.

Some doctors have terrible bedside manner, and are basically sociopaths with an "MD" next to their name. Maybe his point was that you can't get stuck in replaying the past, but it's like telling someone "CLIMB, dammit!" when there is no ladder in sight. A doctor should work with you on your level, help you dig through your darkness and shine some light into it, rather than yelling at you from the top of a wall to "climb".

Look into Teal Swan, "The Spiritual Catalyst" on Youtube. She was horribly abused as a child, and she subscribes to the method of working "from the bottom up", connecting with the person on the level of their current ability, rather than demanding that they reach you instead.

Precious, Dump that T ASAP. Picture me kickung him in the Bal**. You were shamed and you did Nothing wrong. You have every right to Blame the assholes and to have anger, I am angry for you. If you have a good trauma therapist to work through all the bad stuff, it takes time to move through the grief, the loss, the anger,I hear you and validate your right to your own feelings. The abusers should be prosecuted and locked up! You are not alone, and I am so sorry you had to endure the terrible trauma you did and the terrible remarks by an ignorant T. Healing takes time, you have support here, others understand, You survived alot, you are strong, stay with those that help you through the pain, the journey, do not let anyone shame you, you were the child, the innocent one that should have been protected. Again Dump the T..I am angry right along with you! Healing Thoughts and Prayers and Support♡

I am angry with you and have found myself in the same boat. Can you change therapists within the same group so you can still get your meds? Let this therapist know you are angry. That you'll take responsibility for your actions and feelings now but won't accept blame for them happening to you. You were a child and the adults in your life should've taken care of you,, they are to blame. (((Hugs))).

Ask T....." So it is your theory that a 3 year old girl is the responsible one in a rape? Sorry but that is crazy..have you been checked? Has this been your personal experience?" " If it is so, than you need as much if not more therapy than I do"

Hugs of support. You can't change the past but you are not responsible for the actions of the ones that abused their authority.

I'm with CheesePuff and second everything said.
It just brings back my anger and hurt from years ago when I reported the assault to my command and they blamed me for what happened. And then again 3 yrs later when I was beaten for refusing to sleep with a man, my command once again defended the criminal, punished me and promoted him. These criminals should be rotting in jail for what they did. We didn't bring this on ourselves. Victim shaming is horrible. It's NOT our fault. Screw that therapist, he should lose his license!