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Cathy_06_
Cathy_06_

My grandmother died in 2019. She is a cancer survivor for past 10 years. Im very much attached to her. Her loss is too much to handle for me. Everyday I miss her being with her her touch her talk her food her advice and compassion. One day I saw her fell and hit her head in the bathroom and it's traumatic for me. I can't forgive myself because I'm the one who took her to the bathroom.. she cried. It's haunts me everytime I'm hearing some sound like falling or hornk. I don't know what to do. I want to forgive myself that I didn't catchi her. I should've been with her little more time. 

2magicman
2magicman
Hi Cathy. So sorry for your loss. It's no worth beating yourself up for something that is unpredictable. You did not cause your grandmother to fall. We do what we can for our loved ones. We are here on earth for only a short time. We are not in charge. The lord is. Talk to one of your friends that you most trust about your grandmother. That may help. Sending warm hugs your way.

Scott
arfie
arfie
hello cathy. welcome to ds.

grief is a mysterious process. it goes where it goes without predictable rhyme or reason. i hope you'll feel safe to keep venting and exploring that mysterious process here. you are not alone.

welcome aboard.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Welcome to the board Cathy.... I'm sorry that you're hurting.... I agree that you didn't cause the fall and even if you did it would have been an accident..... These things happen and hanging on to this is only hurting you

I would try and focus on how much you loved each other.... Your Grandma would hate for you to feel like this

This is a good place to come and to let it out... Grief hurts a great deal and it can take time to work through the process

I'm glad that you're here... Gentle hug of support and peace.... xo
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Cathy_06_, as an elderly person myself with bad balance who gets around on a cane, falling is my biggest problem. So I can tell you it's not your fault. Truly.
Winter
Winter
Hugs to you.
JazzyLady
JazzyLady
Sorry, for your loss. There are different stages to grief. Guilt is one of them. Allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling. Focus on the good memories with her. In time, you will heal from the loss of your loved one. Gentle hugs sent your way.
Christina09
Christina09
I'm sorry that you feel that way. We all lose the battle one way or another. At least you were there to help her get back up again!
Full_of_hope
Full_of_hope
Sending you a group <<<HUG>>>. For those of us with trauma there's a buried little kid inside of us that just assumes it's all our fault. It's not. You're doing the right thing by acknowledging, accepting, and sharing how you feel. Now you can take action, perhaps ask yourself the question, "Did I hurt her on purpose?" Sit with your answer whenever those guilt feelings pop up. You'll get through this. It my take time, but we're here to listen and offer our support.
Full_of_hope
Full_of_hope
P.S. I don't want to sound like I have all the answers, because I'm pretty sure I'm the most messed up person on here. I do want to thank everyone for being so honest and open. Cathy, you and everyone who I respond to help me the most. When I reach out to help soothe someone else it's usually my (new) Inner Parent speaking, and in my desire to comfort someone else, I end up feeling comforted. Does that make sense? In other words, I believe we truly are in all this together.

So thank you for being here for us too!
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Sending you support again today, Cathy_6_!
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Sending you support again today, Cathy_6_!
rose07042k
rose07042k
Oh Cathy, sending you support also
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
It's Sunday, and another day's support is headed your way, Cathy!
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