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Oh boy

Cry
Cry

Oh boy, hurricane season. So I live in Florida, good old hurricane central. So if you haven't heard already, there's a category 4 hurricane named Irma barreling her way towards Florida. Now I'm not concerned for myself, me and my mom have a plan HOWEVER there's one thing I'm not happy about. And I've told her about this and she said we have to put what happened aside. My dad still live in Florida as well, central Florida, where the hurricane will hit so he has to evaluate. He likes to act as if what he and Daryl did didnt happen. So he suggested that he can come and help me and mom if we need to evacuate (because he's nice like that) now I've voices my displeasure with this. I hate my dad and everything he stands for, however I have started to forgive him (don't mean I like him) so if we evacuate he's gonna possibly help me and mom and I'm scared. The hurricane, doesn't scare me, what scares me is having to face him. Face the man who tore my family apart and tore my life apart. I don't know what to do. I'm honestly scared. After everything that's happened, I just don't know. I don't know what to do or how to react. Any helpful tips?


-shu

spacepony
spacepony
That's a tough situation you're facing, and I can see how that brings bad feeling and memories, and you might be expected to act like nothing is up and you're all friendly-- like you said, you father is 'a nice guy like that'. When I'm threatened, I can disassociate, so mindful breathing and noticing the soles of my feet. Sometimes I stand with my legs a little more than hip width apart and even put my hands on my hips. Some call it a power stand. If I hold it for a minute, I swear I feel a little stronger for a bit.

I'm sure someone will weigh in with good advice. My wish is Irma pass you by, and evacuation is unnecessary. Best wishes
BlueSky
BlueSky
Can you duck out a day early and go stay with another relative or friend to avoid him?
arfie
arfie
Sometimes I think a valid definition of forgiveness is to let the given be a simple fact. A hurricane will be a hurricane. An asshole will be an asshole. A liar will be a liar. A manipulator will be a manipulator. No surprise. Just expect it. Plan on it. Keep survival plan active. What does my personal preference have to do with it?

Steadying support while you ride out both storms, Shu.
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Quite honestly? Tell him his *offer* is appreciated, but his *help* is unneeded. Also, Irma (if it maintains) will probably (per NOAA) affect the whole state, so you can always tell him he should worry for his own stuff and self, and after all, Floridians know hurricanes;... Even if you DO need help, letting that guy near you? I vote no. Hurricanes are bad enough. Don't need a PTSD typhoon too. So... take, leave, laugh, whatever, but borrow some puma roar if you need it!
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