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jjjones3604
jjjones3604

I just joined, my boyfriend thinks that it could be helpful to talked to people that have gone through the same thing. Two years ago I broke up with my ex he was abusive in everyway. I couldn't leave the house by myself I would have to bring my children or have him come with. I had been with him for 14 years because he made me think that I would never find anyone else that would love me. I wanted to leave so many times but couldn't do it by myself. After many attempts to get the police involved and nothing happening I had given up and was saving my money to move out and disappear.


Last year he found me. He said that he wanted to come back he missed me and the kids. I was stupid and took him back. On /9/11/17 we had gotten into a argument and he had left. He came home at 2 AM drunk. Thinking about it now I should never have let him in. He rapped me and then proceeded to accuse me of cheating on him which was the normal. I kept telling him that I wasn't but he didn't accept that for a answer that night. He grabbed his shot gun loaded it and was threatening me with it. Mind you my children are in the house as well, my 14 daughter called the police. I am lucky to be alive.


6 months (2/20/18) later he was sentenced to 2nd degree assult and was sentenced to 3 years. Which in MN he will only be in prision until 9/11/19. With one year of parole. I have been on many medications to help with my PTSD but I still have a hard time sleeping and going certain places without having a flashback or an anxiety attack. I have tried almost everything except talking to people. So here I am.

SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Welcome aboard. Glad things finally ended with him.. In most states you can send a statement prior to his parole date, and they may elect to have him serve the full sentence. Also, you need to have them notify you of the date of his release. Either way, you apply for a restraining order so he can not show up. Hopefully you, as so many of us have, will find the support you need. Yes, putting words on what we are experiencing with others who have been there, is very helpful. You are not alone. Hugs.
Giggles53
Giggles53
I still have a hard time sleeping after 18 years divorced from an abuser. He constantly interferes in my life, my daughter, who he abused, also, has taken up with him again, and has become him. Drinking, Insecure and has enstangd herself from me. My granddaughter sometimes reaches out to me to tell me how she is being treated by her. On top of it they live w doors away from me. When I come es to Christmas or if she needs something she knows my phone number. So tired of it all!
AnnieToman
AnnieToman
oh God, i do hate testosterone and what it does to people. it can turn a perfectly normal human into an animal. some people have way to much of that shit. you can see it in his actions, the drunkenness, the rape, the aggressive behavior, some people should be tested and their T level lowered. ESTROGEN has no problem like that. , most women dont understand what that shit can do, and most men wouldnt admit it either. but really folks i think a lot of problems can be solved this way and its better then locking them up. you dont see girls go over the edge and bring a gun to school to kill all of the people they can. most all serial killers are men. you go to war men do the killing. that hormone makes you aggressive. some cant handle it. so really if your in a relationship with an abuser second chances are a waste of time. as long as there hormones dont change they will be aggressive at one point again. I remember what that shit made me do. i was just plain mean at times, would do things i think are unthinkable now. as a child i did horrible things to frogs, shot at birdies with my bbgun now i see what i did and im very sorry i was that way.. if i was born a girl lots of gods creatures would still be alive. a lot of boys are brats. so ladies if you have an abuser, most likely thats the way he always will be. you may try to lower his hormones your self , give him saw palmento or drink soy milk but keep foods away that raise his hormones, this is pretty sneaky but it might work.
patti22
patti22
@Annie, or maybe just don't give kids toy guns and teach them violence. (Because parenting really IS about what social skills you choose to teach your kids. My son has a heart of gold. We still talk about the bat, Brownie, with the ripped wing that the kids wanted to keep as a pet.)

@Jones,

Wow...what a truly horrific experience. Welcome to the board and I hope that you find healing here as I have.

While I understand you're "thinking about it" comment about letting him in...

I'm just going to say...that "thinking about it"...he should never have done what he did. Just saying... The blame falls 100% on HIM.

Heartfelt hugs, Patti
arfie
arfie
Hello, JJ. Welcome to the forum.

Whatever the ^it^ which is haunting me, talking about ^it^ goes a long way toward finding solutions. Hope you feel safe to talk about ^it^ here.

Listening. . .
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