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arfie
arfie

Repetitive words are one of my strictly personal "Psycho Nag Flags;" those small signals that I am sliding off the deep end once more. I find that the sooner I salute my nag flags with therapy exercises, the easier it is for me to hold steady through my day.


"If" is the word circling my psychosis this morning. "If" is one of the meanest bad girls in my nag flag repertoire. I have quite literally iffed my way into the alternate universes of psychotic breaks. Yucko bucko. May I never have to go there again. For my strictly personal therapy needs, I declared "If" to be an acronym for "Idiot Factor." I am at a proverbial crossroad in my life and it is hard to review options without iffy speculations, but I strive to get the Idiot Factor out of it as quickly as possible. Sorting. . . The ifs that generate more ifs are the first ones I shuffle into the trash can.


Anybody else have flag words which let you know you are losing ^it^?

jewells1
jewells1
"Why" The past can't change but when I start asking why, I get lost in the hurt. That's not too useful in going forward unless there is a similar situation going on. But nothing of then is that similar to the big why's of them. Being on that train is a dead end after a tsunami. I am fighting hard this week to keep those why's in the boxes where they now live. Holding tightly to the best of what I learned from them...but it is the week that it is. Today is today.
arfie
arfie
My research talents make me pretty damned good at finding answers to "Why?" More often than not, discovering "Why" is anti-climatic for me. Discovering why a piano fell on my head won't heal my broken skull.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Woulda, coulda, shouda..... One or all often come back to me with a vengeance.... So useless other than a teaching tool and yet they still infiltrate my mind with such a strong control or so it seems to me.... Sort of a why I suppose.... I hear you re a broken skull arfie.... Maybe that's my problem....smile... Big hug for both of you great ladies......xo
Stopblamingme
Stopblamingme
Nope. More like a flag perception.

If I see everything negative, I am out. I need to back off and retreat. There's no way in hell everyone could be against me.

Perhaps, if I were Donald Trump.
Stopblamingme
Stopblamingme
My counselor says the same thing SunCloud JD said.

Instead of saying don't shit yourself. She says don't should yourself.

That's hilarious.
arfie
arfie
I like to call shoulda, coulda and woulda the verbs of lost opportunity. When I find myself slipping down that slope, I tell myself to quit dancing with The Duhs. Sometimes I give them a farewell dance or two. To the tune of the Blue Danube Waltz:

What's done is long gone . . . Let it be
It can't be redone . . . Just let it be
And embrace the day you are in
And carry on from here. . .

Then we get to the days when I just can't quit shoulding myself. . . I shouldder to even think of it. . .
freefalling
freefalling
Not my circus, Not my monkey. I use this one alot.
lilmissy7
lilmissy7
I do quite a bit of shoulding myself as well Arfie
Support & hugs :)
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