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Detachment Mantras

arfie
arfie
I use "detachment mantras" allot in my grounding exercises. Most notably when I want to care about somebody else's personal drama which happens to be triggering me into my PTSD Inferno. I silently repeat them to myself in cadence with my deep breathing. The person I am listening to seldom knows I am doing it. I am so progressed that I can breathe and listen at the same time! The joys of parenting middle aged children has me digging pretty hard for detachment mantras.

CC posted about a great one way back in 2015. "Not my monkey. Not my circus." She inspired me to go mantra shopping again. This is me, checking at the DS PTSD counter. Any more good detachment mantras?

I'll start with a few of the ones I have worn holey:

~ Not about me.
~ Ears open. Mouth shut.
~ Let go. Let God.
~ Not mine to sort.
~ Stay here. Stay now.

Anybody have more?
jewells1
jewells1
I have recently enjoyed using CC's Not my monkey, not my circus. It has helped when those close to me are deep in a hole they dug. I hold off and wait for them to crawl out giving encouragement, but not giving them the way out, which has been costly on my budget,

Here it takes the form of yours, "Not about me" and try to remember that the degree for them is fire hot in the moment.

I also note to "Breathe" often and when needed. To draw back until I am strong enough to swim, the only thing worse than watching one person drown is watching two.
The waters are not so deep today for me as they were yesterday...so good stuff arfie.
cheesecake88
cheesecake88
What about "Not my Shoes, Not my Stuff?? I like the monkey one, but if you knew my neighbor...aacckk....she is a master manipulator....next thing you know there'd be a rumor I was monkeying around with circus performers!!! I'm not trying to be flip about this...she twists words that much! For myself I use "Let go, Let God under my breath. Good topic arfie...Hugs
jewells1
jewells1
If she flips...hand her a banana.... hugs Cheesecake roll with what works.
J.
Muskoka007
Muskoka007
Thanks Arfi, those words are comforting. I like your post too Jewells, LP and Chees. They make me smile, needed that

I often site the present, today is January 2, 2015, my name is ..., I live at ... helps me come to the present and ground me. I also focus on my wedding rings as they came after the trauma and keep me focused now. Weird but it does generally work

Some songs on my phone really help too, very powerful
arfie
arfie
Cheese, I tend to use the circus mantra for the folks I would rather not be listening to and have no intention of getting caught up with. Sound like your neighbor? Since it is a sub-vocal grounding exercise, it has no gossip value, but it relieves the drudgery of their company to have the circus visualizations playing in my head while I let them exhaust their prattle. Prattle exhausts faster if you don't interrupt the flow.

Maybe you can mentally bait her into the lion's den with that banana? Mentally wrap her in skirt steak before you bait her into the lion's den? Put her in entertaining costumes?

I love visualization. Hm-m-m-m. Been a while since I watched "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty." Danny Kaye's version. Haven't seen Ben Stiller's version yet.
freedom15g
freedom15g
it is your s,,,, your shame take it back ,, it is your s, your shame take it back,,
MillaSofia
MillaSofia
Thank you.
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