Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
What is happening when your mate has hurt your feelings to the point you are crying and shows not one ounce of remorse?
I have been with this man for 15years and he's been emotionally abusive and sometimes physical for most of the relationship. Over the last year and a half he had tried to improve but as of late he has relapsed into the monster that he once was.
My car is breaking down(10 years old, 122k miles). I have 3 kids under 10 and I drive alot. I also live in the Midwest where it gets very cold. I know the car wont survive this winter.
I told him that we need to talk about getting one and he got angry and told me that he may help me with a little down payment but WOULD NOT co-sign. I know I would need his help because my credit is not good at all. After that he started stonewalling me. It has been 31 days today. A living hell to say the least.
I've had lots of crying episodes out of sadness and despair. He told me to leave him alone and that I get on his nerves. After that he just sits there and watches me in pain. It's something I can't understand.
I can feel his energy building as if he wants to get really angry. Any time I try to bring up the subject of how he's been treating me over the last 30 days, he gets defensive and mad and says more hurtful things. Today he told me if I think he's so bad then I should just leave. He said nothing I say will make him change his mind about the car. BTW, his car is newer and much nicer. He washes it and keeps it clean. My car is falling apart day by day. The window doesn't roll up and it has rained in it and it's beginning to sour. Every warning light is illuminated on the dash. I'm so hurt that he won't help me. He's a bastard.
He's so cold. I feel so alone because either my friends are avoiding me because they're uncomfortable or my family just wants me to go ahead and make peace with him. I'm so confused. I just want to melt away. I can't get out of bed today. My smoking has increased. I can't focus. I'm trying to practice self care but its hard.
I feel like moving to my moms for a few days because when he's home is when I get tense and feel emotionally ill. Any advice you all can give would not go unappreciated. Thank you for reading.
I have been with this man for 15years and he's been emotionally abusive and sometimes physical for most of the relationship. Over the last year and a half he had tried to improve but as of late he has relapsed into the monster that he once was.
My car is breaking down(10 years old, 122k miles). I have 3 kids under 10 and I drive alot. I also live in the Midwest where it gets very cold. I know the car wont survive this winter.
I told him that we need to talk about getting one and he got angry and told me that he may help me with a little down payment but WOULD NOT co-sign. I know I would need his help because my credit is not good at all. After that he started stonewalling me. It has been 31 days today. A living hell to say the least.
I've had lots of crying episodes out of sadness and despair. He told me to leave him alone and that I get on his nerves. After that he just sits there and watches me in pain. It's something I can't understand.
I can feel his energy building as if he wants to get really angry. Any time I try to bring up the subject of how he's been treating me over the last 30 days, he gets defensive and mad and says more hurtful things. Today he told me if I think he's so bad then I should just leave. He said nothing I say will make him change his mind about the car. BTW, his car is newer and much nicer. He washes it and keeps it clean. My car is falling apart day by day. The window doesn't roll up and it has rained in it and it's beginning to sour. Every warning light is illuminated on the dash. I'm so hurt that he won't help me. He's a bastard.
He's so cold. I feel so alone because either my friends are avoiding me because they're uncomfortable or my family just wants me to go ahead and make peace with him. I'm so confused. I just want to melt away. I can't get out of bed today. My smoking has increased. I can't focus. I'm trying to practice self care but its hard.
I feel like moving to my moms for a few days because when he's home is when I get tense and feel emotionally ill. Any advice you all can give would not go unappreciated. Thank you for reading.
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The sooner you get yourself and your children away from him, the
better. I know it's not easy, but just keep in mind that what you are doing is better for you and the children. Take care of you and them and stay safe no matter what!
My H does inflict pain on me because in his mind, I know nothing, or he is not willing to admit I might know something more than him, and deep down inside he knows that. He needs to control that so he is not caught off guard and left feeling out of control, and the more pain he inflicts on me, the more he thinks I will listen, obey, be submissive so as to not to get "more pain". So, they do enjoy it, cause they think their plans are working and that is he wouldn't be causing me pain if I was right. He's causing me pain so I will learn that what I'm doing is wrong. It is a sick, mind game for them. Much like, when you punish a child, so they will know right from wrong.
Like they've never grown up, they're still resorting to child punishment, so to speak.
almost as if i don't exist all.
i truly believe that they get off on it.or at least mine does.
the worst part is when they act(even thoguht they are smart)as if they no clue as to what is wrong..when they clearly do..
i wish you the best..i feel i lost my strength and belief in getting out of this..
i cant tell you to much as i am still in this deep..except no it wont get better..
one question for me is HOW THE HECK THEY ACT SO NICE IN BETWEEN?how then they seem to care so much..then the light switch is flicked and nothing matters again.from the person that is supposed to care fro you more than anyone in the world.
the back and forth gets me..i guess i will never know..