Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
My daughter disclosed to me over a year ago that her father had been touching her in inappropriate places. She had just turned 4, she told me multiple times but I just assumed she was confused until she started talking to me about her dad's private parts. Panic and shock started settling in and I called the police, where she was interviewed by a forensic psychologist and had a medical exam.
They had concerns about her being molested and told me to get her into therapy right away, which I did. They got us a restraining order and the judge ordered supervised visitation. It's been over a year and he had never went to one single visit.
Now the restraining order is about to expire and he has called to let me know he be resuming visitation from the original custody agreement and even calling her school and dance school to find out her schedule. I am TERRIFIED AND BESIDE MYSELF. I feel sick to my stomach at the very thought of him seeing her unsupervised. The therapist has already stated it is her belief that she was molested and in no way coached. He is taking me to court for custody to prove parent alienation. How can he do that when he is the one who refused supervised visitation. Is anyone else going through this. I'm so scared that some judge will buy into his lies and I will lose my daughter and he will go on to abuse her again if he gets custody.
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Middy is off for a bit so if anyone needs a CL please just give me a shoutSending a big hug...xo
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I was sexually assaulted as a kid. I find it hard to accept that another person's actions caused me so much harm. He made bad choices and now I am paying the price. Stupid PTSD!
Good grief anymore if a person even says sexual abuse ( true of not) they go grap the other person!!
I side with you... non of this makes sense... he bails on his visitations, now wants to see her... did you have an attorney? Someone you can get legal advice? I would also recommend you seeing a therapist also.. and if you are, talk to them about all this...
Also call the dance place, and school and tell them " do NOT release any info about 'said child' you as the parent are allowed to do that..
Maybe even write a letter to the dance place and school... and any coaches too.. any activities she's in..
if he still has an order on his, make sure he's not showing up at these places too..
I glad everyone believed her, but something seems fishy about why he's still walking around..
Hang in there, you're welcome to talk here!
Notalone00
The reason why they haven't arrested him is because the DA says all the evidence is circumstancial. It's very disappointing and disturbing but unfortunately that is how the legal system fails the victims and protects the perps to reoffend again.