I already have my affairs in order, I might get hit by a car tomorrow. My children know where to find my will, what to do with my cremains, and I've already begun downsizing, getting rid of things I no longer want or need. Some have been donated, some have gone to my children. I want them to have less to do when I am gone.

I would be pressed to get every thing in order in 3-6 mos.. I would work on that and just spend as much time as possible with my family and my children. I would try to do as much as I could for them before I am gone.

I'd head out to get another opinion but I'd keep the advice in mind as well and start working on things because none of us ever really knows, do we? I sure don't want anyone else having to sort through the things I've accumulated anyway. It's never to early to have one's affairs in order. Definitely, more opinions though. 2nd, 3rd, etc.

I've heard of people getting similar treatment and having been offered drastic surgeries only to find out that it was a fibromyalgia brought about by candidiasis. So, one never knows. See different doctors, even different types of doctors.

Did someone tell you that awful news?

Lorrieonline -thank you for your input, but no it is not me. It is my brother in law who lives with us. It is Melanoma? They have done biopsies and MRI's and scans!

I don't know where you live but as Lorrie said get more opinions as there are wonderful new treatment modalities for Melanoma now and if he has 3 to 6 to live, well get your important affairs (who you want to spend your last days with and where and make those ever lasting memories for those left behind)

I totally agree with personalize. Spend as much time with my 2 kids, my husband, the rest of my family & friends.

I will be honest with you; I haven't even looked at the others comments. So just by reading this question I would say live life like there's no tomorrow.

Sure take ten minutes write down the most important things to you and who you want to have them. Then go out do anything and everything that you have always wanted to do..... things that you can that are within your means.

All your affairs should be in order. If not when you started a family or a home of your own then most def when you learned you where sick.

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I wish this brother in law of mine had a family of his own. I also wish that he had the money to go live like he would like to. He has always been right with God. He is spending a lot of time at church. He is also getting unused things ready for sale to pay for his own funeral.

I thank every one for their input! I guess this is my way of dealing with this!

I would finish to get my affairs in order (we still haven't worked ours out as have no family to leave things too). Would go to a solicitor & get it done right.
Then spend time with close friends & if we could afford to go on one last holiday with hubby & take lots of pictures to leave him with. Would be careful who I told as people treat you different when they know. I wouldn't tell others till I had to. Would take all treatments to prolong life so long as not sick all the time too.
Thats what both of us would do as we have discussed it.

I agree w/ Lorrieoline re getting different opinions. A friend had alternative cancer treatment that saved her life. I also agreew/ AusSue re

This darn handheld...I agree w/ AusSue re not telling everyone.
I would write a screenplay..what I've always wanted to do. And I would make as many friends as I could...since I dont have much family.

This post made me think of a movie I saw called the Red Guitar. It's about a woman diagnosed with terminal cancer. Totally awe inspiring.

The very first thing that I would do, if I hadn't done so already, is fill out and sign an advance health care directive, also known as living will, personal directive, advance directive, or advance decision, is a set of written instructions that a person gives that specify what actions should be taken for their health if they are no longer able to make decisions due to illness or incapacity.

The next thing I would do is discuss my wishes aloud with the person closest to me. I would want my wishes to be known clearly.

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