Where do you get this a heath store (damiana)

Same here! I think the desire goes away during menopause. I try to take it day by day. As far as the peri-menopause discussion goes, I too had VERY heavy bleeding during that time. The doc finally gave me a uterine ablation. If you have good insurance, it's very worth asking your doctor about this procedure. From then on, my periods were very light and then disappeared after a year!

Do they sell thhis Damiana bye the ton?

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To show how little desire one has at this time, the other night I dreamt I was having sex with Christian Bale and when I woke up, I wasn't the SLIGHTEST bit aroused!
Say, when menopause is over, will any interest in sex return at all?
I do so hate to disappoint Christian Bale.

Hiya bigiblue, I have the same problem when i went into menopause (I had a hysterectomy 3 year ago). I went off sex slowly and now not bothered if i do have any. My hubby gets annoyed sometimes, as all i say is no.Occaisionally he'll get a yes but i just turn on my side ............. I'm going to Drs this week to see if i can sort it out.Will keep you informed as to what the doc says.Love to you sammy xxxxxxxxxx

I have more desire than my husband does! I am wondering if that is going to change soon or not? My sister said she never wanted it, and that didn't change after meno. I hope I maintaine a little, of course if he doesn't want it, it doesn't matter lol!

I am still having sex. More than I used too. But then I have a boyfriend who is 9 years younger and has a very healthy sex drive. So, it makes me feel more like having sex. One thing is vaginal dryness but KY takes care of that!

Hi bigiblue ~ I really have no sex drive at all and as "sparkling" mentioned ~ I have dryness and actually experience pain. Thanks for the advice about the KY gel.
Men are men ~ and I feel guilty by keeping making excuses ~ so I do try to please now and again ~ I know my husband get really wound up if he goes too long without it ~ lol ~ am I really telling everyone about my love life here!!!! ~ well guess I am :)
Good Luck ~ you are not alone x

Not advice but a question. I purchased a vitamin that contains Daminan at the health food store. How long till it kicks in? I also take black cohash. I want the drive back. Any advice is greatly appriciated.

Hi denali
I have never heard of Daminan, but I have tried black cohash, it did not help me, but some people swear by it.
I take Evening Primrose Oil Capsules and Omega3 Capsules. I think they help me, and Omega3 is good for depression also.
Hope this is of some help ~ Angel

I am not sure how other women feel about this but I have found that it helps for me to read the stories in my husband's porn magazines. Men are visual and we are emotional. It seems to really help me out when I just don't feel like it. I suppose if you are opposed to porn maybe a hot and heavy romance novel would work. Good Luck Ladies.

Sometimes the Courtesy Sex or Pity sex turns into a quite enjoyable occasion. Other times it may feel more like Gratuitous Sex because he's going thru this "Oh so fun" stage with me. My tubes have been tied,so uterus just shrivel up already!

this is too funny. this is the second time i woke up saying to myself that i was going to post something and someone beat me to it. i too have no desire. once i get started i can kind of get into it but it is really hard. i went today to see if there was something i could take but i just don't want to be messing with any chemicals right now. march will be a year with no per. so i would hate to bring one on and and wait another year to be officially in menopause. i am 41 and my husband is 42 so this really sucks. my husband understands but he also reminds me everyday how i used to be.

Pardon me for repeating myself. I put a comment on this same topic in the Discussions sections, and I'll reiterate here:
Since starting full-blown Menopause almost 3 years ago, my libido has pretty much disappeared. Even when I'm feeling physically good (ie: not having GID, bloating, headaches, backaches, body aches, crashing fatigue, etc.), I'm just simply not interested in sex anymore. Even my husband's kind offer of bringing in another man to liven things up for me does not excite me at all. But there is my husband, who has needs that are not only physical, but emotional as well; he wants sex and he wants it with ME, the woman he loves and married (which is why resorting to prostitution or having a girlfriend on the side is out of the question as far as he's concerned).
So here's what we do: when I DO feel good and our schedules allow -two factors that already limit us to once a month, if we're lucky- we strip, and get into bed, and start by kissing and cuddling. Then I basically start talking dirty and masturbate him. He gets satisfaction not only through the physical release but the intimacy and affection that having me there (as opposed to doing it by himself) as well. I don't have to deal with the discomfort of coitis while having a dry vagina, which also means I'm not angry and/or resentful that I had to perform out of guilt or sense of duty.
We are not 24 anymore,(I'm almost 48 and he just turned 49) and at this time in our lives, this is what we can do. And since there are a lot of days when I'm not even a coherent, sane human being, having these little moments of intimacy bonds us and helps us both feel like we haven't lost it all (like my in-laws who never touched each other or kissed).
Speaking of which, don't forget to keep touching each other, not in a strictly sexual way, but rather as showing affection. This will keep you both from feeling rejected and unwanted by each other. Take turns rubbing each other's neck or feet.
Hope this helps. Good luck to you both!

Well I have lost my desire about 5 years ago, I am now almost 60. i would rather clean the oven or scrub the toilet but I know my husband needs the affection and so we do have it. It is only because of him that we do because I never thing about it or or plan it and if I could I would not. It is sad that we become this way and they do not. One of the reason so many men cheat is because their partner at home is not interested. Knowing this I do participate but again only for him.