I have read through most of the posts here and have a few suggestions to get your libido back. First you can try applying testerone cream and or estradiol with doctors supervision and care. It worked for me hormone replacement therapy, i mean my hubby is one that has to keep up now. Try talking to gyn first and see if she or he can help. Good luck!

im with little she i have sex as much as i can i need it and want it mroe now then ever,they say your 40s r the peaking years,so i guess thats me peaking and goping through premeno

Thank you for this topic for this is what I needed here!
I been going through what was known as "PRE-Menopause" for about 3years BEFORE it all ended!
Along with it went my DESIER for SEX.
Now mind you I was a "SEX FEEN" I LOVED IT and seemed to NEVER get enough BUT then came the 2 periods a year for 2-3 years and then when "IT" went so did my desier!
For the longest time I thought there was something wrong with me espically since I am only 42~ SINGLE~ NO SIGNIFICATE OTHER IN LIFE... OK I said it now someone tell me "AM I "NORMAL" or is their something wrong with this picture!???

If there were a magic pill that I could take (for my husbands benefit,not mine) I would but given my drithers I would rather do anything else. I just wish that when we lost interest our husbands would too. Maybe that is why there are so many divorces. zHe wants it and we don't.

I have the desire, but no partner! Anyone got one out there for me? LOL
v Seriously, I was always VERY interested in sex and now my sex drive has gone down a lot but I would still be interested. Of course with the bad back and everything else, I would have to have an older guy who understands... Oh well, thats life! Still happy and kicking toh! butterflyz

Just wondering how old you are, butterfly and what stage of menopause you are in?

I thought i posted this already, but I don't see it- I am 55 and always had a strong sex drive. Since my b/f broke up with me, I hope it goes away. Presume I am in menopause- had uterus taken out with bladder suspension after my daughter was born- dr did blood test and put me on estrogen.

I have a new one for u all, i am in mood, but after awhile, like 15 minutes i lose drive and mood, and giveth up. I am seeing dr , as this is new thang i have. I hope I just need a simple change in hormone therapy.

I hate to make light of your situation, Hilly, but I guess your hubby nees to "get you" during those 15 minutes! In all honesty, hun, I hope you get the medication you need from the doctor